(Closed) Had my first bridezilla moment…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Tell your mom that the bridal shop called you and they can’t get the dress in her size. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

IMHO…I think that was kind of rude of you to do! I understand that you want to maintain a certain theme for your wedding, but honestly, all eyes are going to be on you and your FH that day. Most people won’t even notice your mom. From some of the things you stated, it sounds like there are other things going on in your mother/daughter relationship the extend beyond the type of dress she wears.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@bunnyfoofoo:  I’ve never heard that you don’t wear red to a wedding.  I’m pretty sure a lot of people have red as the color of the bridesmaids’ dresses.  Maybe you’re thinking of funerals, because wearing red to a funeral is supposed to be very disrespectful.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wore a red dress to a wedding last Sept… didn’t even think twice about it b/c I had never heard that… rules!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

So, the dress your Mom wanted to buy…does it clash with your color scheme or something?  What’s so wrong with it?  I personally think she should be able to wear what she wants as long as the outfit isn’t slutty and obscene

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think I’d suck it up and let my mom wear whatever she wants as long as it’s appropriate.  Otherwise you’ll never hear the end of it, and you have enough stuff to worry about on your wedding day!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

So its not that you don’t like the dress she wants to buy, you just don’t want her to wear it b/c she won’t look…poor? I’ll agree with you, thats a bridezilla thing 🙂

Do you have a plan on what to do when/if she calls the store?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Someone please correct me if I am wrong, but I believe in Chinese culture red is used in weddings for good luck. There are even bridal gowns that have accents of red.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Haha my SIL demanded everyone wear red orange or pink (all guests) to her wedding 🙂 Well either way – hope it works out!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Maybe I’m easy going in this department, but so far I’m not picky about what guests/family wears to my wedding. My mom can wear whatever she wants as long as she can afford it. I know for sure some of the guests will dress up (flashy/show-off/up stage one another) for my the wedding, which I don’t mind. I know these people all my life and it’s their personality. They’re always dress like that to parties, weddings and church; I don’t expect them to change for my wedding.

If your mom wants to wear a flashy $500 dress ( although it may not be your taste), why can’t she? Is it because she’s your mom or you don’t want any guests to dress like that? I think it would be hard to enforce no flash dress code to everyone.

Personally, planning a wedding can drive any one up the wall. Pick your battle and it can be less stressful.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

IMHO I think you should let your mom wear whatever she wants to wear.  It’s her money and if she wants to show off that she has money, let her.  It really has no effect on you and the fact that YOU are getting married and will be the center of attention.  In my limited experience, everyone has an opinion that they are more than happy to share with you about what you should and shouldn’t have in your wedding.  If you don’t want tuxes, that’s fine, but just chalk it up to your mom wanting to help and wanting you to have the perfect wedding day.  You’ll be much better off if you let her comments roll off your back. 

Oh, and I also have never heard the “you don’t wear red to a wedding” rule. 

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