Post # 1
The wedding is less than 24 hrs. away and I guess I should be excited but I am not. I think I spent way too much time and money on a wedding that will be nothing like what I envisioned. First of all, my emergency tooth extraction set me back a day. The beautiful oval frames I ordered for my daughter and niece’s pics never arrived. My FI was ina less-than-happy mood. We forgot the wedding music CD and had to go back. I don’t really care for our officant, she rushed us through the rehearsal and I don’t think anyone knows what they are doing. But the worst part is my friend and mentor who was supposed to escort me down the aisle is in the hospital and they don’t know what’s wrong with him. I am worried sick – it is because of this man that I have a good-paying job with tenure. I am beginning to think this marriage isn’t meant to be.
Post # 3
Oh no!!! I’m SO sorry!! I hope your day turns out to be magical, remember when it’s all said and done it’s about the marriage, NOT the wedding.
Hopefully you’ll wake up tomorrow to the perfect day. Try not to dwell on what’s NOT happening and focus on all the GREAT things you’ve worked on during planning.
Post # 4
awww….…..you’re wedding’s tomorrow and you have so much to deal with..as if the wedding’s not enough! is there someone close to you whom you can talk to? sometimes things don’t work out the way we expect them to for reasons beyond our control. “expectations reduce joy.’ i always try to remember that. if you’ve done everyhting to the best of your ability, then just let things go and trust that things will work out for you in the end. if you’re unsure about your marriage, then it’s important to talk to your FI or someone you’re close to. cold feet is one thing, but if these are valid reasons, then you should listen to your heart. besides the “when it rains it pours” syndrome you’ve experienced today, are there any other reasons why you don’t feel you should be getting married? hugs to you…..
Post # 5
In the world of theater, they say the worse the rehearsal, the better the show. I had an awful rehearsal too, and I was just in a wedding where the rehearsal was pretty rough for various reasons. I really hope that this superstition turns out to be true for you, that despite the missing parts you will have a lovely day.
Post # 6
Oh no! Hang in there and keep your chin up, it’ll all work out in the end.
Post # 7
You’ll be okay!! Sounds like you’ve had a rough time lately and believe me I know all about that. You know in your heart you wouldn’t have said yes to this man if you didn’t believe it was right 🙂 We’re all thinking happy things for you and sending lots of love for your big day!
Post # 8
Think good thoughts! The rehearsal might have been rough but that doesn’t mean tomorrow won’t be absolutely wonderful. Look for the beauty in everything tomorrow and like SanDiegoAli said, its really all about the marriage not the wedding.
Post # 9
Hang in there! Things will smooth out tomorrow. Don’t worry about little signs seeming like they’re trying to send you in the opposite direction, that’s just the stress talking. With the exception of your friend (sending good thoughts his way!) these are all small things adding up and threatening to overwhelm you. That’s ok, it’s what happens. Just remember that they ARE small and that by tomorrow they won’t matter in the least. You won’t give a damn about frames until after the wedding, and even then you’ll have so many happy memories to eclipse them you’ll hardly even give them a thought. Breathe deep and get some sleep. Tomorrow is a new day. You’re marrying the man you love and have chosen to spend the rest of your life with. That is an absolutely beautiful and amazing thing. Hang in there, it will be completely worth it.
Post # 10
Every rehearsal I’ve been to as a bridesmaid has seemed rushed and unorganized…it’s always freaked me out since I am a control freak about that kind of stuff….but then the wedding has always worked out just perfect. Ya know what they say, a bad rehearsal equals a great opening night……try not to stress, spend some time with your kitties (petting a cat for 10 minutes has been shown to lower your blood pressure), it will all work out for you. Big huge Hive ((((hugs))))
Post # 11
Good luck and hang in there! Happy bee thoughts!
Post # 12
((HUGS)) everything happens for a reason, just relax and breathe. today (it’s 2 am here) is about the two of you not anyone else. there will always be bumps in the road and i’m sure your fiancee is nervous about making tomorrow flow perfectly for you. good luck!
Post # 13
It’ll be ok! If you took everything that went “wrong” as a sign, nobody would ever get married! Try not to think of it that way.
BTW, our rehearsal was rushed, too, and we were all relatively confused by it, but on the day of, there is something who literally will grab you and go “stand….now go….walk….” and direct you. They know you won’t have your head on straight, so don’t worry too much about the actual logistics
Congrats! you’re getting married today! =]
Post # 14
Good luck, I’m sure it will all be okay. I’m sorry about your friend, I hope he gets well for today.
Post # 15
Sorry you are upset, but don’t let it ruin your wedding day. I decided not to have a rehearsal for a number of reasons (people traveling from out of town, timing, etc.) So, in a sense, we winged it. Our officiant never discussed the ceremony with us because its her “thing” that it be a surprise to the bride and groom. We were fine with that but ya know what? She messed some stuff up, some significant stuff. Half of my bridesmaids walked down the aisle before they were supposed to and then had to come back and do it over again. I could have stewed on it and been upset, but instead, we laughed about it. My dad told me the same thing that he did when I backed his brand new car into a wall and created a crater in the bumper, “It gives it character!” Just remember, no one will notice if its not the song you wanted or if the bridesmaids walk down the aisle in the wrong order, they will, however, remember a happy, carefree bride who laughed and smiled and enjoyed every moment of her wedding day, the good and the bad. Enjoy it and don’t sweat the small stuff.
Post # 16
Rehearsals are for getting the bad out of the way, now enjoy the good on your wedding day! Congrats!