Post # 1
So last time my MIL was down to visit she told me she wanted me to make a bunch of soap (Its a hobby of mine) to sell at a boutique with her) she told me when it was and that she wanted me to start making a bunch of soaps and chapsticks and crochet a bunch of hats. So I have been working my BUTT off and spending money on new molds and scents and flavors and yarns.
I asked her today if she thought what I made was enough and she tells me “Oh, we aren’t doing that anymore”
I talked to my SIL (who I LOVE) and she is all “Oh, she told me that she wasn’t doing that FOREVER ago, I can’t believe she didn’t tell you!”
My MIL then writes “Sorry, I should have called you. I have been busy…”
This lady works TWO DAYS A WEEK, all her kids are moved out of the house and all she does is stay home and do whatever she wants!
I wrote her back “A text works too, and its pretty dang quick! Glad I asked before I spend more money on supplies!”
I have literally HAD it with my MIL. For past references you can go HERE and HERE. Especially the last one.
Anyway, do you think I was too harsh? She never responded and I really hate conflict, but I am SICK OF THIS!
Post # 3
@SweetartMD: It was a bit snarky, but I like it. How inconsiderate could she be? asking you to participate, then not telling you when she canceled the plans.
Do you have another event or outlet where you could sell your crafts?
Maybe you could buy yourself something nice with the profits and rub it in a little bit the next time you are together.
“Oh this? I bought it with the profits from my soap, chapstick and hats”
Or give her soap for Christmas.
Post # 4
@julies1949: Oh she will for SURE be getting soap for Chirstmas… a LOT of people will! I was considering selling it on etsy but there are a lot of other soap vendors.
Post # 5
@SweetartMD: Are there craft fairs where you live? If you don’t have enough for a table of your own, most craft fairs can hook up two people to share a table.
Post # 6
@SweetartMD: You were much nicer than I would have been and I agree she should be getting a LOT of soap and whatever else you made for Christmas.
Post # 7
@julies1949: Yes, but about $200 for a booth, ans i’m not sure its worth it.. and I dont know anyone to share with,
@excitedtobeMRSF: Thank you! Yes, there will be a huge basket of soap with her name on it!!
Post # 8
This is just some of what I have done TODAY! 🙂 Just for reference. Since I can’t show them off at her boutique thing I guess I can show them off here!
Post # 9
@SweetartMD: They’re so cute!
I don’t think your response was too bad. She needed to know that you’re out money.
Post # 10
@SweetartMD: LOL love the idea of getting her a soap basket for xmas!
I’d be upset too…she should have called, texted, emailed, sent the message through your DH..ANYTHING!
If you can’t sell them for profit, then perhaps you can give them away to others as gifts. I honestly love homemade soaps/candles/etc, so perhaps you can still get some bang for your buck.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2015 - Jellyfish, Punta Cana DR
@SweetartMD: here may be a lot of other vendors, but are they as good as yours? Give it a shot! You have nothing to lose.
If you decide to sale your stuff through Etsy, let me know!
Post # 12
@mimi11590: Thanks! DH really wants me too and he thinks mine are just as good, if not better (but he is biased) than the other soaps on etsy! I will let you know! Thanks for the support! 🙂
Post # 14
It was a little snarky, but I like it. I think it was really rude of your MIL to not let you know.. for whatever reason.
I’m dealing with a bit of FMIL trouble of my own, so I’m glad I’m not the only one.
Keep us posted on if you begin selling them on your own! (on etsy or otherwise!)
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Those heart soaps are ADORABLE! I think what you texted was the perfect level of snarkiness. I mean, she deserved to be chewed out, she she got off light!
Post # 16
@SweetartMD: I love the soap you made.
And I guess MIL knows what she’s getting for Christmas then 🙂