- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Yep, I was at lunch with my FI, FMIL who is visiting, her sister, and her sister friend. FMIL and I were going back and forth over the car picking her up for the airport. I went to the bathroom and FSIL’s friend said “How you can talk to his mother that way and get away with it is beyond me”, I said “this is just the way we are our relationship is normal”, she said “I am leaning more toward your being a disrespeful bitch, she is your elder and his mother you don’t talk to her that way”
Then she walked out of the bathroom. I just smiled, giggled, and walk out behind her like nothing happened because I know if his mother thought I was being disrespectful she would tell me herself.
We are strong, stubborn, independent, Italian women. We don’t agree on everything and both speak exactly how we feel about things to each other. When I have an issue with something she has said to me or done in my regard I tell her right away and stand my ground, she stands hers and that’s that. I don’t think our relationships is bad, we are two women who what the attention from the same man. It’s her baby boy and my FH. Literally when I visit we shop, she gives me nice things, she calls me family I call her mom, we talk, AND argue, disagree and snot off to each other about it, and give each other the evil eye now and again but to us that is normal.
Her sister (who is like 67): Wow I wish I still had a figure. (Talking to me I am in a sort of tight back out dress today)
FMIL: BUT did you see her tattoos! GROSS! (Snotty eyes rolling)
ME: What’s wrong mom don’t like my tramp stamp?” (Snotty)
My FI: That’s my Q! (Then he walks outside to smoke away from the battlefield as he calls it HAHA)
ME: I was thinking about getting a few more before the wedding. (Instigating her)
FMIL: No you have enough marks on you’re as it is.
ME: Well I guess at the wedding well see if I did not. (You could tell I am not being serious)
FMIL rolls her eyes, I giggle and her sister changes the conversation. After we all get along fine. (In exception to her sisters friend who is mortified at how I spoke to my FMIL)
This is typical, it is just the type of relationship we have. We are not new to each other I have been with her son for almost 8 years. Everyone knows how difficult mom is and I know for a fact if I just sit and take some of the things she says and dose and say nothing she would think less of me and call me weak and probably not speak to me at all. I know it’s not normal to most this kind of talk to an elder but we do care for each other at the end of the day despite hating on each other over silly thing or ridiculously competing for FI’s attention. (yes this happens even at our ages) LOL
I told my FI on the way back to work and he is livid. I told him I did not care anyone who does not know me might have felt the same way. He wants to address this to his aunt about her friend…I think it should just be laughed at and just something to giggle about once in a while no need to bother. Just wanted to share my interesting lunch, relationship with my FMIL, and talk about it with strangers. HEE HEE