Post # 1
So first, I have to say thanks – you ladies are seriously dressing me for the wedding! First the dress, then the shoes — I clearly don’t know how to dress myself 🙂
Now, I feel like I have all the big things booked except hair and makeup! I didn’t originally plan to pay for hair/makeup for BM’s — I didn’t plan on asking them to get it professionally done. Now, I feel like I should at least pay for one. My mother is also asking if she gets her makeup done, so I feel like I have to pay for hers as well if I do theirs. I can’t pay for both for everyone, as even with only 3 bridesmaids that would add about $1000 to the budget of my small, 50 person wedding.
To top it all off, the wedding is about 2 hours out of town, so if I go with someone from the area the wedding will happen, arranging a trial will be a pain.
Here are my choices now:<br /><br />
- Have a makeup artist I know from near where I live come up, and do everyone’s makeup. Tell the girls I’m covering makeup. Don’t include hair, and go to a salon in the area myself to get my hair done (invite them if they want it done professionally, but tell them it’s not required). This way, trial’s are easy and I’m working with someone I 100% trust, but then I have to go to the salon myself for hair on the day of.
- Have someone from the area I’m getting married come to the hotel room we’ll get ready at, and offer to pay for hair OR makeup for everyone. Trial’s will be hard, but this way they get more choice. (If they want both done, they pay for the cheaper of the two – about $60 given the “combined” price).
- Suck it up and email them and ask them how important it is for them to have professional hair/makeup done on the day of (or which of the two they’d prefer). I’m not sure how helpful this option would be, as I know they’d all just reply telling me not to worry about it (even if they would actually be just a little bit disapointed).
Post # 2
I asked my bridesmaids if they wanted their hair and make up professionally done, because I could not cover that cost for them, and it was not a MUST for me. They all did, so I found someone who was really reasonable and also from the area we were getting married in (2 hours away from home, like you). I was the only one who did a trial beforehand, and everything worked out fine the day of. In my experiences, bridesmaids don’t need to do trials. Just pick someone who you are happy with and check their portfolio for looks that you like.
Do you want them to have both hair and make up done professionally? I guess that’s where I would start. Is it an option to have them DIY their own?
Post # 3
TaraMay_: I’d be 110% fine if they did their own! They are all gorgeous girls, and they are more than capable of making themselves look good!
I really just feel like they paid for their own dresses (we found great BHLDN bridesmaids dresses on sale for $125), and I should do something nice for them! I suppose another option would be to pay for manicures for everyone beforehand, and have them do their own hair and makeup (that would definitely be cheaper!)
Post # 4
NOTLBride: I didn’t pay for hair and makeup but I told them neither was required. When I emailed I told them the price I had been quoted for the hair ($75/girl) they all opted for pro hair and DIY makeup.
Personally, I think getting pro hair is more important unless you have girls who are really bad with makeup.
Post # 5
I asked mine what they wanted to do, too. In the end, we all did our own make-up but all got our hair professionally done.
My SIL almost went and got her make-up done by someone, but didn’t know how she would end up looking – so she ended up doing her own after our hair was done.
I gave her some tips and products to use for it to stay on longer, and luckily it was a colder day – so that helped the make-up freeze to your face. *lol*
I look back and wish I would have paid for their hair, but oh well. It actually wasn’t as much as I thought it would be – compared to some other places in town.
Post # 6
Mmy friend gave us the option of having our hair professionally done or not, at our own expense. For a fee $65 and having to get our hair done at 7:30am when we didn’t need to be at the church until 3….I offered up my own skills and did my own hair and one of the other bridesmaid’s hair for free.
I’ll probably tell my own bridesmaids something similar. If they can do their own hair, great, but if they feel they can’t, and I know I won’t have time, the option will be available.
Of course, if you want the bridesmaids to have elaborate updos, then I would foot the bill since updos are pretty difficult to do yourself.
Post # 7
I agree with MsGinkgo that hair is more important. If you have a particular person that likes to wear bright red lipstick and raccoon eyes, maybe ask her to tone it down a bit. But I really don’t think you’ll be caring too much about what they look like and they probably aren’t expecting you to pay for all that!
Post # 8
I paid for my girls to have their hair and makeup done. I never really asked but I thought it would be nice for them to sit back and get it all done for them. Since I paid for it, they didn’t resist. Recently my friend said she was paying for our makeup but not the hair and when the other bridesmaids found out the hair was going to cost $75 they all flipped out. The bride (or more likely her parents) ended up paying for the hair in the end though. For another friend’s wedding, she made hair appointments for us and didn’t pay for it. I could have done my own hair the same exact style so I was a little peeved that I had to shell out $70 for it.
Long story short, tell them the prices and what you’re willing to pay for and let them decide what they want to get done professionally.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies!<br />It’s good to know I’m not the only one who’s not paying for professional hair and makeup for everyone — I was starting to think it was all expected!
Post # 10
NOTLBride: I couldn’t find anyone near our wedding (out in the boonies!) that would come up to the house we were getting ready at, and only a few salons that were open on a Sunday (the day we had our wedding). Those salons were too far for us to cart 7 bridesmaids, a bride, and a MOB back and forth the morning of the wedding, so we opted to have two friends take care of hair and makeup for everyone–simple styles, mostly curls. All the girls loved their makeup, too, and no one had trials. Our friends didn’t even want to be compensated so we just gave them nice gift cards as a thank you. Do you know anyone who is good with hair and makeup? I think elaborate updos might be a challenge for an amateur, but curls with a few pins is doable.
Post # 11
Definitely not expected by everyone. My girls all did their own makeup (I did too) and we found a very reasonable hair person referred from a friend who did all of our hair for $50/person- I paid for everyone’s tip. Looking back, I could have had them do their own hair and it wouldn’t have mattered to me but at the time I knew a few of them were nervous about doing their own hair so I wanted them to be at ease about it.
Post # 12
NOTLBride: I think it’s just expected if you’re requiring them to get it professionally done. If you’re giving them the option, it’s a nice gesture but not necessary to pay.
Post # 13
If it’s your wedding, then you pay. If you don’t want to pay, then they should DIY. Giving them an option for professional hair/makeup at their own expense is really not fair. You’re still spending their money for your wedding, and many girls feel obligated to say Yes to anything the bride asks, even if they don’t want it or can’t afford it.
Post # 15
I let my brides maids do their own make up and I bought them the doughnut bun sponge and asked them to wear a sock bun I wanted a polished look. I got the large sock bun dounut atClaire’s accessories it worked out perfectly