Hair RANT – You can't go home again….

posted 3 years ago in African-American
Post # 3
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m natural also and I haven’t been to a salon to get my natural hair styled in years for this very reason. Some stylist are just against anything natural and that’s just a shame. In my opinion, you aren’t a true stylist if can’t style all types of hair; silky, kinky, curly, processed, unprocessed. Which is why I’m doing my own hair for my wedding.


There’s a thread about natural wedding styles you should check it out if haven’t already.

Post # 5
1231 posts
Bumble bee

@CeeJae:  If you are close to a beauty school, you can probably try them out. At least you can tell them what to do without feeling pressured. Aveda has good products. No stylist should pressure a client for a perm. You cannot undo a perm! They know that!

I just found this thread.  It has some nice styles too. Esp. see #22 all natural!

Post # 7
855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@CeeJae:  Are there any natural hair care specialists near where you’re getting married? A stylist that says they can’t get natural hair into a bun without chemicals or extensions is one who isn’t as experienced as she thinks she is.

Maybe even go see a loctitian who may be able to do something for you (without the locs).

Post # 8
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Hey, im new and just reading your post got me so angry!!! I had been transitioning for almost 2years and finally bc this june so im now fully all natural!!! Yay!! Anyway please do not listen to this woman she is a waste of space Urghhh! Don’t trust them and very worst case see if a member of your family can perfect if for you if not you keep trialling till you get it perfect! Practice always makes perfection!! 


I really hope you find someone! Don’t get weave if you dont want it! Do what you want hun! I hope you sort it out 🙂 x

Post # 9
1470 posts
Bumble bee

I’m nervous about this too. I’ve recently vowed to give my natural hair a break from heat until my wedding because I think I want a smooth-edged natural style and I already know that’s going to be a heat damage disaster but I’m willing to take it on for my wedding because it’s one day. I was talking to my mom about my heat ban while I sat with her at the beauty shop back home and her stylist, who I’ve known my whole life said….”that’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard, you need to start training your hair with the straightening comb now so the edges will lay on your wedding day”

*blank stare*

I didn’t even respond. So…you’re saying you want me to burn my curl pattern to death for straight hair on my wedding day. And then what?

I’m not gonna front on Miss Cynthia…I’ve had hair down my back my entire life thanks to her and it was seemingly healthy, I never suffered from breakage until I moved to college and went blonde from a box and she cried tears of confusion when I big chopped but some older stylist just don’t understand natural hair. Thank God for YouTube and hair blogs!

OP, all this to say…I hope you were able to work it out without having to go back to the creamy crack! Congrats on your wedding!

Post # 10
1231 posts
Bumble bee

I would also suggest avoiding someone using a straighting comb. The chances of getting your hair burned is much higher.

Post # 11
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

She is ridiculous for not even trying! 

I have been natural for over 4 years now, and i have only been to a salon three times, the first two were to get a sew in as protective styling, and the third time was my wedding day, my hair was straightened and styled. 

The reason this worked well for me is because the person who did my hair (all three times) is natural. Now she will give you a relaxer if you want, but she also embraces women with natural hair. 

I only plan to ever go to her for a straighten or weave because everything else I can do. 

But I would recommend finding someone with some experience with natural hair. If I can find someone in Tucson Arizona, you can too! haha


Good Luck, and I am sorry for the experiece you had, not cool

Post # 16
15 posts

Ughh! I feel like if you walk into a beauty salon and they see hair they are not used to working with insteaad of wasting EVERYONES time say you can’t do it. I’ve been natural for four yrs now and been to two stylist. Never again will I go to get my hair styled by someone unless its a color and wash only. 
How about youtube and trying a style on your own? I’ve learned how to twist, rollerset and add senegalase twist all from youtube and other natural hair sites. 

Good luck in finding some one. Congrat on your wedding!!

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