Post # 1
So. Fun story. I was in the hair salon getting my hair done this morning when the stylist and her client sitting next to me start talking about people in our town. The topic started with the stylists husbands brothers (one of whom happens to be my future-sister-in-laws hubby). And then it eventually got onto the topic of my FMIL because the client works with FMIL and, well, actually, both of FI’s sisters at the hospital. His one sister is a ward clerk, the other is a housekeeper, and FMIL works at the front desk.
Then, all of a sudden the topic switches to the “terrible thing” that happened to FMIL’s son (AKA my fiance). They started talking about his truck accident that happened last year (1 year ago tomorrow actually). The accident left him paralyzed so it IS kind fo a big deal. But, whatever. Anyway, they started talking about how sad it is and how they see him (FI) in Wal-Mart all the time with his daughter sitting on his lap (that’s where she likes to sit) and how they cruise around lol. It’s true. We go to Wal-Mart often. And our daughter almost always sits on his lap.
They they started going on about the fight that I had with his family after his accident. Like, the client knew some shit that no one outside of his family and my close friends (who I had cried to many many times following my fight w/ his fam) should know. It was pathetic. And angered me. Like, how dare his family share these personal details of our life with people like this? These people aren’t even close family friends!! So, anyway, the stylist starts going on about how his family doesn’t like me and the client started sticking up for me saying that I’m really young and went through a lot, etc, etc.
It was just pathetic. For real. And disgusting.
And painfully awkward considering I was sitting literally 2 ft away from the client who’s going on and on about my life like she’s some insider!!
They even knew where I work (even though I just started there like 5 wks ago) and tried to take a stab at my daughter’s name.
Gah. Anyone else ever have situation like this before? It fully ruined my day. So not only does all his famil hate me (though thye pretend they don’t), but random strangers who know nothing of my side of the story are spreading shit about me too.
Post # 3
WOW, just wow. I don’t even know what to say about that, but I’m sorry. It just goes to show how crappy some people can be.
My family has all kinds of drama and crappy stuff in it, if I ever heard someone else talking about it though, it would really hurt me.
At least that one woman stuck up for you a little bit, depsite being a gossip.
I’m not sure what I would do, try to let it go, try to stay positive that you aren’t that kind of person, if you can’t get over it, maybe mention to your FILs that you overheard some things at the salon and would like to know how they think people know some of these very personal details.
Post # 4
Wow…..Did you confront the women? They were being beyond rude especially since you were sitting right there. Either they knew who you were and were just being mean, or they have no idea who you are which means that there was absolutely no reason for them to even be talking about such a personal/private matter in such a public place.. Now you know what kind of people your future-in-laws are since somebody had to tell those women the story…..
Post # 5
Oh wow…. I’m so sorry that catty bitches are spreading info about your life around. Did they not realize who you were?
Being the loud-mouth that I am, I would have stood up and made a smart-ass comment.
Post # 6
That’s shitty…just remember, karma always wins. Big e-hugs from my end!
Post # 7
I would not have been able to sit there. I would have got up, stuck up for myself, and later called his family on it. It sounds like his family needs to learn how to keep family matters to themselves. If they can’t do it, then consider anything they say or do fair game to tell others.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t have been able to sit there and not say something. They would have been told off.
Post # 9
This is just gossip. Since the person “telling the tale” didn’t even know who you were (2 feet away), it is unlikely she really knows your in-laws feelings. She may be working off of info she heard a while ago and his family may gave gotten over their bitter feelings. They may never have even said those things–remember the game “telephone”? You might want to have a conversation with the salon owner. She probably wants to coach her employees about malicious gossip–it isn’t that great for business.
Post # 10
That’s crazy! Do you live in a small town? I can’t imagine what I would do in that situation. Kudos to you for not throwing a hissy fit right there- like I would have.
Post # 11
oh I’m so sorry my dear. These sound like very small minded people who don’t have much else better going on in their lives. I know it’s easier said than done, but it;s probably a good thing you ignored them, which is what it sounds like you did. If you had confronted her that would have given her more fuel if you know what I mean. So sorry to hear this and you definitely win in the end. And yes, KARMA is a b*tch. Trust me. Hang in there! And although she said these things about his fam not liking you…it may be just her mouthing off trying to sound important and like she’s some sort of insider. Ugh, total nonsense.
Post # 12
that’s messed up! I would have looked at them and said, “Hey! I’m right here!” And then left.
Post # 13
Thats awful i am sorry!! I think its weird how people want to act like the know everything about the situations in other peoples’ lives. They are obviously just gossips. And yes karma will get the best of them.
But yes i have had a friend tell me a similar story. She was getting her hair done and talking about her ex-bf to her stylist. Her ex-bf and her had been broken up for years but they both knew him so they were talking about how great their relationship was and how they were too young to commit and on an on. Well when the convo was almost over she realized her ex’s sister was a couple feet away getting her hair done too and most likely heard the whole convo! Let me add that my friend was recently married (and is still married) at the time… so the whole convo basically made it sound like she was still hung up on her ex! Wouldn’t be surprised if it got back to him! ;-0 This story is more embarrassing and nothing bad was said so not harmful plus the people talking were actually involved so quite different then what happened to you.
And like someone else said i would have a hard time keeping my mouth shut if i over heard that going on!
Post # 14
If I were you I would have stood up corrected her on your daughters name and told her the next time she wants to gossip about your fiance maybe she should take a good look around and make sure his future wife isn’t sitting 2 ft away from her.
People like that will get what is coming to them. I’m so sorry you had your entire day ruined by some women you don’t even know. ((Hugs))
Post # 15
Wow. I’m sorry for that woman’s ignorance, and I commend you for keeping your cool. What happened to you downright stinks, but I feel sorry for that woman. . .if she has nothing to talk about but other people and the bad things that happen to them, she obviously has no life. At least you have a great man and a beautiful daughter to talk to your hairdresser about!!!!
Post # 16
ditto with MsBrooklynA– I would have stood up, extended my hand for a handshake and introduced myself.
That would be a great lesson learned for people who gossip- especially those who gossip when they don’t know everyone in the room.