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I went a few months back to get my hair cut by my friend at works wife. she did a great job. her salon was small and dated nothing fancy.

I called her to aske her if she would be free to do the hair for my wedding thinking I may have 5 girsl neddeing haor done. she said yes and we would schedule something in Jan for a trial. so she called me to set up a trial and said for hair and makeup and I said no just hair.

so today I went in, told her it would be like 8 girls and that they only needed hair. she was like the package is 150 for hair and make up and because I didnt want makeup that she  would have to talk to the girl working with her. I even told her I had someone already doing my makeup.

so we started with a cut and eye brow wax. went fine.

then the hair trial we were there from 4-10:15 and I took my ipad with pictures on it. she never once did nayting that looked like what I asked for and we were there all night. towards the end I liked a style but when she was talking prices she said mine would be 250. and the girls would be 150 each. I think 250 is steep for a updo. espically when I was 100% happy.

I feel bad because we were there for hours and she is my firends wife and I invited them to the wedding. but how do  I  tell her I dont want her doing my hair.

at one point she mentioned she norally has contract and ask for a deposti but today was the first time she ever brought up prices. so I dont want to tell her I am going with someone else and her expect me to pay her something.

I gave her $100 today. the hair cut was 45 and the waxing was 20. so because she is a friend and we were there so long I gave her a bigger tip then I would normally.

I asked about prices on the phone when I asked her if she could be free for our date but she never mentioned anything... bah

I dont know how to approach this.

I guess I just be honest and tell her all the girls need is there hair done and no make up and that the price is to high for them.

I checked into it the hotel we are staying at the spa charges 55-70 for an updo.

so how do I tell her I dont need her services?

It seems so easy to tell he no and give her the reasons I explained. But I am afraid it will make it awkward between her husband and I. But really when I told her I don't need make up and that my girls don't need makeup all she told me is that they do a package and it's 150. I think it's kinda strange that she was so insistent and kept trying multiple styles on me and wouldn't let me leave. When she knew I didn't like it and it didn't look like the pictures I brought... Oh man I hate this stressed feeling I have. But to be honest 150 is too much to aak my girls to pay. I already have one flying in from japan I for sure don't expect her to pay.

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And i am most upset cause I always have ling hair. I went in with the picture if what I liked and she suggested trimming my hair for the look. So she seemed confidant when I first walked in so we cut my hair which was not planned. I figured she knew what she was doing. Then as she was doing my trial it seemed as if she shouldn't have cut my hair. She even briefly mentioned it. That pissed me off the most...

Normally I wouldn't say to lie, but in this case if it was spare hurt feelings and awkards moments at the wedding.... lie!

I actually had to do this as well because I didn't want a friend to do my makeup for my wedding.  So I talked to FI and we agreed to tell her that my future MIL gave me a bridal make up session at a local salon.  I felt bad lying, but at the same time I knew I wouldn't be happy with the make up my friend did and I didn't want to hurt her feelings.

If you tell her you can't afford it she may offer to drop the price to match what the spa is charging. Then it'll look really bad if you back out anyway.

Just tell her that you talked it over with your bridesmaids and didn't realize it before but they were really looking forward to getting their hair done at the spa. I agree a little white lie is acceptable to spare her feelings, but make sure your excuse is something she can't argue her way out of.

Ok, I can't believe someone would actually quote $250 just for hair!  I have never paid more than $60 for an updo!  That's taking advantage of the "wedding" angle!  She may be a friend but you were also considering her for a professional job.  Treat it as if it were a stranger, just be straight with her.  First, it's way out of your (and BMs) budget, second, it wasn't what you envisioned.  Thank her for her time and book a trial elsewhere. 

I have never hada updo cost more them likt 65 bucks. I have always just gone it told them what i want and walked out happy. but last night it was a six hour long struggle and I wish I had just left. but it was a weird place to be in.

I really wish she didnt cut my hair but she seememd like she knew what she was doing...

I think I am going to have to keep the phone call simple. AS I was there yesterday it seemed like she was trying to sell me on getting my makeup done by her when I told her I already booked a makeup artist. this whole sisuation is dumb. If she had just told me price when I fisrt contaced her like I had inquired about it all would have been better. Cause I could have told her from the start I couldnt afford that. I guess it may kinda be my fault. But I never thought it would ever be this pricey the salon she works out of is in a strip mall and it is nothing fancy it is very dated and for sure dose not warrent the steep prices.

There is no way I would pay 250 for just my hair. I am getting my makeup airbrushed by my grandmother firends daughter and she is only charging 50 bucks. so I dont see how this lady wants to charge 150 for each of my girls. blah... I just wish it wasnt so akward....

and I thought what I was asking for was pretty standard in the world of

updos..http://www.hairs-style.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/updo-hair-style.jpg.

 oh and,so after waking up this morning and actually getting a good lokk at he cut she gave me it sucks so bad I am so upset...

so after talking it over with my sister about what I was going to say. I called her. I started off with thank you so much for all the time you spent with me yesterday but after talking to my girls 150 for them was not within there budget espicelly when all they wanted was there hair done  so we are going to go in another direction. she then asked if that included me as well and I told her yes becuase it would make more since if my girls and I did this together.(plus I wounld not want to pay 250 for my hair) and then all she said was thank you for letting me know.

so I contacted the spa at the double tree we are staying at and they have room for us and hair is 50-65 including tip. so that made me feel a lot better!! My makeup artisit's daughter in law  is going to do my hair she's a hair stylist so I am going to have a trail with both of them this upcoming thursday.

so things are back on track. just dreading work on monday when I see her husband. if it comes up I will just stick to the point that I am sorry but the price point was to high and none of my girls wanted makeup done just hair so the package price she was giving me was to steep. Blah... now I know why you dont do business with friends and fanily... I guess some things you just learn the hard way....

thankfully her husband never really brought it up. the first day I worked with him he acted as if nothing happened. the second day same thing at one point he mentioned to me so I hear your no longer using my wife. and I told him I was sorry nothing personal but my girls couldnt affored the pricepoint. and he was like thats too bad, and he said I dont know what my wife charges so I dont know but not to worry about it...

so we are good...

Thats good you storted it out, but 250 for an updo is CRAZY! Im sorry, thats just metal. And no, she shouldnt have cut your hair, I would have been pissed!!!

@jholler25:  Thats what I thought, if shes your friend, you think she would have given you some sort of deal