Post # 1
I have long hair. Down to my lower back long hair. Its very pretty and everyone loves it… trouble is that it is incredibly frustrating when its down. I have to tie it back to do the simplest task (like eating!) to avoid it dragging in everything, it gets knotted and messy at the slightest hint of wind (not good when getting married near the coast in winter!) and I cannot have it in my face without pushing it back (which will ruin any lovely curls around my face)
I always, always envisioned my hair up. Something like this with some flowers in it:
But my fiance is very vocal in saying he doesnt like my hair up. My dad is also very vocal about it so I have both the men in my life whos opinions mean the most to me saying that they wont think I will look my prettiest if my hair is up.
They want it something like this:
Dont get me wrong, this is very pretty and if I did have it I would wear a cute flower headband… but I can see myself getting incredibly frustrated with it.
My compromise was my hair in a side ponytail like this but with a ‘fringe braid’ and again, a flower in the side:
My fiance reluctantly said that this would be nice but its still not what either of us want; but it will be better than having it down. Both of us are slightly dissapointed, but hey.. we can at least compromise! lol
Has anyone else encountered this? What did you do? The side pony idea is the best of both worlds and I have done heaps of research on ‘hair down’ styles just in case someone kicks up a stink about it (mum, I’m looking at you) but I cant help feeling dissapointed.
Post # 3
what about something like this?
Post # 4
How about half up and half down? Honestly if it is going to make you uncomfortable don’t do it. They should both love you enough to want you to look and feel beautiful on your wedding day.
I like these options (but honestly I love your 1st pic the best):
If they are still pushy tell them you are doing this:
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Post # 6
something like this would be really pretty also
Post # 7
Since you’re the one wearing the long dress, I’d say what you want is the one that really counts. They’ll get over it! 🙂
Post # 8
I like the idea of a half updo or a side ponytail.
I’m having the same dilemma myself. I decided if it rains or it’s humid, I’m definitely wearing all of it in an updo. It’s a beautiful sunny day, I’ll wear half of it down. The last thing I want is to wear it down and have to deal with it, but have it look limp and frizzy by the end of the day…
People who don’t have long, thick hair have NO CLUE how uncomfortable it can be and how much it gets in your way. They just think it looks pretty (which it does).
Post # 9
You and I are in the same boat!
I would say stick to what it is that you envision for yourself on your wedding day, because anything else just won’t do. I know it is hard to ignore everyone’s wishes and suggestions but in the end it has to be about you. I truly believe that when you come out in your dress no one will really mind how you have your hair.
Post # 10
@Treejewel19: +1 I have the same hair issues and getting it stuck in my lipstick, blown in face, and wacking people in the face (windy day), wasn’t the bridal look I pictured!
Post # 11
if your doing an outdoor wedding, an up do will be most comfortable for you. you dont want your hair being blown everywhere during the ceremony. but if you really want to compromise, you could do it half up and half down.
Post # 12
I LOVE the first picture you posted its so pretty! is your hair thick or fine? Im sorry to say this….. but it is your hair and if you’re happy thats all that should count. They should understand that its not that you dont appreciate and want to listen to their opinion. tell your fiancee you are worried its going to end up looking bad by having it down. If your happy and confident with it than they should love it just as much, because they love you :).
Post # 13
Go with what YOU want. First off, it’s the prettiest of the three (IMO) and it’s what YOU want. I’m not normally an “It’s your day” person, but heck, it IS your hair! You know it best, how annoying it can be, how it does after X amount of hours of being windblown. You always know your hair better.
Trust me, I feel you on this. I have EXTREMELY thick hair (my hairdresser told me I literally had the thickest hair she’d ever seen) and it’s gotten pretty long (around the bra line, a bit longer). No matter how much anyone wanted it, there is no way I would wear my hair down. No. Way. It’s super irritating and starts to frizz after too long.
Post # 14
Wear your hair how you want to! Your FI and your dad won’t even care, they’ll be too focused on you. You could wear a sack and do your hair like a sheepdog and they’ll still think you’re beautiful. Make sure YOU’RE happy.
Post # 15
I agree with others, it is YOUR hair! Wear it however *you* want. My entire bridal look is a secret, so FI can be surprised when he sees me on the big day. He is getting no say in anything about me. And he told me he didn’t care because he knows I will look beautiful no matter what. I truly doubt your FI and dad are going to see you on the big day and think: “OMG I hate her hair up! Why didn’t she wear it?!” They’re going to both be so overwhelmed by how stunning you look that your hair won’t even be an issue.