Hand-delivered Invites?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Hand delivers & returns
    Hand-delivers OK : (20 votes)
    51 %
    Hand-delivers Not OK : (3 votes)
    8 %
    Hand-returns OK : (10 votes)
    26 %
    Hand-returns Not OK : (6 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    11626 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Hand-delivered is fine, I guess.  I think it could be hard coordinating schedules and getting them to everyone around the same time.  I also think that you should not expect them hand-delivered back to you, despite sketchy mail service. 

    Post # 4
    1323 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I hand delivered mine…But they were boxes, and I didn’t really like wrapping them. I did wrap some in kraft paper, and tied it with twine, but I loved dropping by the houses of my guest with my invitation that I adored. It seemed almost fancier and more formal than the mail. Anyway, I did not expect them to be handed back to me, nor did I want it. It was much better for organization to be mailed back to me so I included a self addressed stamped RSVP envelope. 

    Post # 5
    10454 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    There’s nothing wrong with hand delivering or returning.

    I don’t think you should expect them all to be hand returned though.  If there’s a phone number or email address included I don’t think it’s neccessary for those ones to be pre-stamped.

    If you have problems with mail, what are your plans for people who aren’t on campus?  I assume it still goes through campus mail to get to you.


    Post # 7
    10454 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @MissOtter:  Your campus doesn’t have intercampus mail delivery?!

    Post # 8
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I plan to hand deliver the invites to my coworker friends. I see them every day! I do know most of their addresses since I’ve been to their houses, but it’s easier just to give them out at the office. I’ll probably stamp the RSVP envelopes though. 

    Post # 9
    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MissOtter:  I would still include the stamp – they might want to mail it.  Honestly, I’d mail it to anyone who does check their mail regularly.  It’s fun to receive invitations in the mail.  There’s nothing wrong with hand delivered though; my parents requested we just hand deliver it, because going to their mail box is a … thing.

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