Handfasting for unity ceremony?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

We had a handfasting ceremony. I think it’s an old celtic tradition where people got married outside of the church. I don’t see why you couldn’t use it? 

My suggestion is to forget about using ribbon and get two six feet long and at least 6 inch wide strips of silky cloth. Then, if you do it right, you can pull your hands out and have a really nice knot to keep. We used ribbons and it was a bit small. 

Just a suggestion, but if you want to make it religious you could sow your favourite bible verses onto the cloth. That would be cool. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We did it and a majority of our guests were catholic. We had no problems with offense-in fact, they loved it because they’d never seen it before.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

We did a handfasting at our Christian ceremony. This is the reading we used:

“These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.

These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.

These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.

And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.”

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MrsC2014:  We did a handfasting ceremony at our wedding. Well, kind of. We didn’t use the rope thing. We just held hands and did the reading. It was really specially to my DH and I, but nobody knew it had anything to do with religion/tradition.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsC2014:  I never knew this is called a handfasting ceremony. We used a similar reading as @Cory_loves_this_girl: We held hands with my parents hands on top of ours and his underneath. Everyone commented how beautiful it was (including my predominantly catholic family) and we were in a church when we did it. It was our pastor’s idea.

Post # 8
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Newbee

The word “handfasting” actually means wedding or betrothal and it comes from Great Britain and Ireland. A handfasting is a wedding ceremony done in Neopaganistic religions, mostly in Wicca. There are a lot of different rituals done during these ceremonies, the tying of the knot between hands only being one of them. I’m not pagan but it’s nice to see where the tradition came from. 

I’ve seen a lot of people pick and choose things from these traditional ceremonies for their weddings, and I don’t think anyone considers that offensive.

My SO really likes the idea of a handfasting, but it’s not my cup of tea.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MrsC2014:  Ours was longer than most, but there wasn’t a dry eye in the house! Even our musician cried!

Alyssa, please face Mr. rcab1208 and hold his hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.

 

These are the hands of your best friend, young, strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the days of his life.

These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.

These are the hands you will place with expectant joy against your stomach, until he too, feels his child stir within you.

These are the hands that look so large and strong, yet will be so gentle as he holds your child for the first time.

These are the hands that will work long hours for you and your new family.

These are that hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or grief overwhelm you.

These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled completely with love and desire for you.

 

Mr. rcab1208, please hold Alyssa’s hands, palms up, where you may see the gift that they are to you.

 

These are the hands of your best friend, young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she promises to love you all the days of her life.

These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and knowing when it is time to let go.

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times

These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when you are grieving.

They are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase down your dreams. Together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.

 

Bless these hands that you see before you this day. May they always be held by one another. Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their wondrous love. Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in grace, rich in caring, and devoted to reaching for perfection. May Mr.rcab1208 and Alyssa see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter and guide.

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