- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Recent events have really made me think about family holidays.
In the 4 years FI and I have been together, we have always spent Christmas morning with our families. His mom never remarried and he is her only child, so I always encouraged him to spend the morning with her, and I always spent it with my parents and younger sister.
Well, this year is unique. My younger sister had a baby, and while she is no longer with the baby’s father, she is pregnant again with her current boyfriend (long story). Her current boyfriend also has a son from a previous relationship, who may be with him on Christmas morning.
Now, from her perspective, I understand that she would like to spend Christmas morning with him and his son. She lives with him and is having his baby, after all.
But from my perspective, she hasn’t been with him very long- roughly 6 months (drama, I know…) so I don’t like the idea of her breaking tradition for someone she hasn’t been with very long.
Add to the situation that FI and I are getting married this summer. Next year, I will probably not be spending Christmas morning at my parents house. There is also a good chance that FI and I will be living in another state- we may not even be able to make it home for the holidays. We have no idea.
I personally wouldn’t feel too broken up over breaking with tradition this year, but my mom will. She’s been raising kids for 34 years, and if my sister and I don’t go, she will be alone on Christmas morning for the first time in forever. She is so bummed about that.
I already told her I planned to come over, but I have no idea if my sister will.
It’s just really got me thinking about how growing up and getting married/having children changes those family traditions. I hate to break up my mom’s traditions, but I can’t help it.
Did anybody else have problems handling the change in family traditions after getting engaged/married?