(Closed) Handwritten Thank Yous but not written by either Bride or Groom?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think its fine as long as the words come from you and you each sign it personally.

Post # 4
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

I agree it’s totally fine as long as the wording comes from you and your Fiance. 🙂

Post # 5
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

The problem is that your guests won’t know that you dictated for your mom.  If any of your guests know your handwriting I wouldn’t do this.  If I received a thank you note that I knew was handwritten by someone other than the bride and groom I would definitely be a little put off.

Post # 6
1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m a bit surprised by the ‘as long as the wording comes from the bride and groom’ reasoning.  Are you guys writing something very special and personal in your thank you notes?

Every thank you note I ever received looked like this:

Dear AprilJo2011,

I’m so happy you came to our wedding! Thank you so much for [insert gift here].  We will use it for […].


Post # 7
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think its a good idea. If you can’t handwrite it yourself just print them from the computer.

Post # 8
1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think this fine. My handwriting completely sucks, so I had a friend write my thank you notes for my housewarming gifts. Perfectly fine 😉

Post # 9
1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@bells: See, I disagree… I would much prefer a hand written note, no matter who wrote it. 

I mean, I don’t know the handwriting of most of the brides whose weddings I’ve been to. The only one who I really did know was the wedding of one of my BMs, and that’s b/c I’ve known her since elementary school and have seen her handwriting a million times. 

For all I know, I may have gotten some notes that were dictated to someone else. How would I know? I don’t know their handwriting. 

I think that a good way to get around the issue is to have Mom only do notes to people who wouldn’t know your handwriting, or who wouldn’t know her handwriting.

EX. Will DH’s extended family really know the difference? Probably not. 

Post # 10
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think that if your going to be taking the time out to word evrything then its going to be really counterproductive to have someone else make them out. I would just write them out… But if you really dont think its ledgable then I dont see any problem with having her write them out as long as the words come from you and your Fiance.

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