- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I’m not sure if this is the correct board to discuss this, but I need to get this out and I am sure I am not the only new bride to feel this way.
I planned for months for our dream day! We got married at my family farm. Rented a tent, married in the front yard, the weather was nice and our Heavenly Father was our focus. I love my husband and our new family!!!
However, from my bride point of view I just felt everything was a mess! The day started out great. I went for a morning bike ride all by myself to clear my head. Got hair and make up done…then things felt like they came unraveled. Getting dressed was rushed, the DJ was 40 min late, the pastor was 25min late, it rained the last 10min of our ceremony so we didn’t get to do our receiving line. Picutres were rushed, the DJ announced dinner 30min early and played all our “must play” songs when we weren’t even in the tent to enjoy them. We planned on walking around to tables to talk to our guests, but then, we had guests leaving only an hour or so after dinner was done! So now I feel guilty and rude for not visiting with everyone (side note: we did to a thank you speech but I forgot to mention my brother, my hubby’s family and the pastor :/
I guess our guests are the ones who decided to leave early, so it’s not all my fault for not talking to everyone. Since pictures were rushed after the ceremony I wanted the photographer to take more and so did my hubby….so that too took us away from the reception and our guests (But what was i supposed to do?? You only get one chance to get wedding pictures and I didn’t want to miss them!)
My feelings are so hurt! My hubby’s family left early, my cousins/aunts/uncles left early. I had a best friend leave very early without even saying goodbye then yesterday tell me “she didn’t really know anyone and her and her date felt uncomfortable….but your friends were sooo nice to us and you are just like a sister to me” (wtf?) AND friend of 10 years who threw my bridal shower at work and rearanged her summer vacation just never showed up! (I cried over that one for a few days) I would say 3/4 of our guests were gone before 9:00 🙁 I did have about 30 people stay till about 11:30 or so, obviously I know who my friends are, and we had a great time dancing.
Everyone is telling me how beautiful it was, how pretty I looked, and what a nice time they had….I don’t see it. (The food and decorations were great, for sure) But all I see is that it turned into a mess and so many people left it must not have been that fun! (or we are just boring and people didn’t want to stay)
Needless to say, I’ve been pretty upset this week and all I want to do is move past it. And that in turn makes me sad, it’s not a day I wanted to “move past” it’s a day I want to remember and smile about, but right now I am having a hard time smiling about it.
Has anyone else felt this total let down? Like the day of your dreams just didn’t live up to your expectations? How did you get past it? How did you get happy about it?
p.s. I know it shouldn’t matter, but then we had some family members literaly spend only $6-$10 on a wedding gift. (i.e. a $30 gift card from 5 people) Ouch! 🙁 That just hurts my feelings.