- 7 years ago
I don’t know how to respond or what to do about this topic anymore. Maybe you bees can help a girl out…
My husband has a job in the construction field, an industry that has been hit especially hard by the recession. I am currently unemployed for the second time in a row after being laid off from what was basically my dream job. I’m having a very hard time finding anything suitable because my industry (real estate) was also hard hit for the exact same reasons.
My husband is miserable. Every day. He hates his job so much that I personally believe he is falling into clinical depression. He has told me that I am the only thing in life he cares about anymore, that nothing makes him happy, and that he wants to quit his job. I hear some version of that daily.
Him quitting his job is not an option. With me out of work, we are struggling financially to get by. His background is entirely in construction and he does not have a degree, but does have many years of community college working towards one – of course, in construction management. He complains of feeling trapped by my unemployment and trapped by his lack of education.
I try to put on a brave face for him, but honestly, I don’t love our situation either. I’m home alone from 5 am until 7 pm or later with no one to talk to or spend time with, no job to fill my hours or my pocketbook. Planning the wedding was a huge time filler, but now that it is over, I’m feeling restless and frustrated.
This has hit us really hard, during what I thought would be a fun holiday time, jsut being married and enjoying each other’s company. We expected to be trying for a baby, now we are just trying to pay our mortgage.
I can’t listen to the complaining anymore. I’ve calmly asked him to speak with a therapist (he went twice and both times had rave reviews, but makes no effort to go again) and explained that I can’t carry the weight of everything on my shoulders. I feel his sadness bearing down on both of us and while it breaks my heart for him, I also feel like he does NOTHING to change his circumstances or mindset – a frustrating concept for a person like me who tries not to dwell on the negative.
Bees… what on earth can I do?