(Closed) Happily Waiting…Finally! :)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Worker bee

I love love love this. You are so very right. The thoughts are still there for me, alot, however I don’t continuously talk to him about engagement, marriage, babies like I was. I really want him to enjoy this moment too. If he has some magical plan on how he wants to propose and make it special I really need to sit back and let him do it. 

 

At least we can all sit back together, right ?  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Beautifully written ๐Ÿ™‚

I was also caught up in the waiting till I changed my way of thinking like you a month and a half ago. It helped so so much to do that. I have become less worried and more appreciative of my SO and what is really important to me.

Being with him is the most important thing and looking outside of the “box” is the only cure to this ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Cheers to that! 

(note: I am not drinking at 10AM on a Thursday, but if I were I’d raise my glass!)

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I love the way you phrased this! It’s frustrating to wait, especially on something so special and so wonderful, but I don’t want to miss out on what’s going on now. It’s so important to remember that the journey is just as important, if not more, than the destination. The waiting shouldn’t be a nightmare; it should be enjoyed as a piece of the puzzle. Thanks for reminding me to slow down and smell the roses. My BF is wonderful and I wouldn’t ever want to forget that!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

This post makes me so happy, and I think I’m going to bookmark it for when I have my inevidable moments of “why not right now?”. I have a long (18 months) time until we are going to start moving towards a formal engagement (this has to do with his work and visas) and at first the wait seemed interminable. It’s so long that I’m not going to get on the waiting list yet. I think it’d make me nuttier at this point. Maybe with a year to go? 6 months? ANYHOW.

But in the past month, I’ve relaxed a lot and realized I only get to go through this period of anticipation once, and if I approach it from the right way, it hopefully will be a sweet and loving wait. I have to remind myself that he voices his desire to be with me forever on his own, that I’m not going to have to push him to do this, but that I’m also going to have to make sure he’s comfortable in where his life is before I get to be his bride.

He’s everything I’ve ever wanted, and I can wait. I’m trying to be excited about this – this time last year I never would have imagined that I’d be with such an amazing man.

Thank you so much for this reminder!

Post # 9
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Newbee

@StefLovesJamie: 
This made me cry. It’s so similar to my situation (only he wants my ring to be a surprise), and I was getting so worried he might change his mind, or he’s waiting because he’s not sure if he’s going to marry me or not.

He is. The look in his eyes when he looks at me, the extra squeeze in his enveloping hug, the kisses when I least expect them, and the way he says “I love you” when he knows I’m having a bad day … because he knows that alone can make my bad day bearable. In the last half year we’ve been to three big concerts, 2 more in the autumn, and we’re moving in together in September.

I’m a fool for missing all these beautiful things because I think he doesn’t want to spend the rest of his life with me, just because he hasn’t “put a ring on it” yet.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Couldn’t agree more! I really try to be like this,,,but sometimes I still have a bad waiting day..BUT i am getting better!

Great Post!

Post # 11
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Worker bee

What a great point of view !  Smile

Post # 13
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1013 posts
Bumble bee

This made me tear up Laughing

I’m here too. Finally just enjoying my boyfriend, even if he isnt my fiancee yet.  He will be.  I even apologized to him last week.  I said “I’m sorry for being crazy and preassuring you about marriage the last few months.  I know you will do it when the time is right and i wont bother you anymore”.  He thanked me for that. 

I agree.  I was completely missing all the wonderful things my SO does on a DAILY basis because i was blinded by the proposal i want. 

Last week i asked for flowers (half joking) since i was busy and stressed at work.  I wanted him to bring home …like carnations from the grocery store. NO he sent a GIANT bouquet to my work.  This week i was annoyed because again, stressed at work and tired and he was gone almost every night working late as well.  I complained because this is the one time of year i need to work alot and i need him at home with the puppy.  He apologized, said its bad timing, and asked to take me to Red Lobster (i know, not exactly a high end restaurant but i have been asking to go there because i want seafood lol). So it was sweet he specifically said that restaurant.  

He is the BEST boyfriend.  He will be the best fiancee.  He will be the best husband. 

I will only every be proposed to ONCE.  I want it to be magical and not destroyed because of preassure and anger.  

YAY!! i love the happy posts now ๐Ÿ™‚

OH and BTW…i started Mr. Bees Plan over a 1.5 months ago…and it worked to distract me.  It hasnt made him propose, but we are a million times happier now.  So when it does happen we will be in a good place. Smile 

 

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