happy anniversary……not

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would be pissed off too, but your FI is at fault here. He didn’t say no, he said yes. Did she know it was your anniversary and you had a date night planned? If she did and asked him to help her anyway then yes she is at fault, but so is your FI. If she didn’t know, she isn’t a mind reader, and your FI went ahead and helped her on YOUR anniversary. Then you should be less pissed at her and doubly pissed at your FI.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Jacqui90:  +1

If this happened I would be super pissed at DH as well.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@thefuturemrsD:  Um you need to direct your anger at your FI, not FMIL.  It’s him who can’t stand up to her and chooses her over you.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Time for your FI to grow a set.

What stops him from saying ” Sorry Mom. We just popped in for a quick visit before we go to the movies as it’s our anniversary. I’ll come back on ___ to do those things” ?

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@thefuturemrsD:  Ok well you have every right to be pissed off at BOTH of them.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@thefuturemrsD:  Leave and tell him he can marry his mother.  

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

@thefuturemrsD:  UGH that sucks!!

Yes I would be upset at both FMIL and FI!  Unless you guys are always having date night (and it sounds like you don’t), he should stick up for you and your relationship.

Next time you will know that if you get a date night in the coming weeks-AVOID GOING HOME to his place!

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

How much longer until he can move out? Time to go!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would be upset too! ..And probably would have brought myself to the movie.. And then told him alllll about how it ends. 

But really, he should have told her no, or that he would help another time. Date night on your anniversary is not the time for “15 minute” projects!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I would be more upset with FI than FMIL, HE is the one who said yes (especially considering she has a history of this and you had a date night planned, not to mention the fact that it was your anniversary).  He said yes when he should have said no, then didn’t stand up for himself when she kept finding things to do. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@thefuturemrsD:  FI needs to step up and break away from Mom’s leash.

I’d be super pissed that he didn’t speak up.  On one hand- I think it’s great he loves to help his mom.  On the other- there’s a time for that and it’s not durin gannivery/date night.

Also, while I personally love my FILs- I’d likely be hesitant to go back to my FI’s place on a date night in between stuff if he lived with his (needy!) mom LOL

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I get that your FMIL is a pain in the ass. However, your FI is a grown man, and he needs to act like it. 

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