Post # 1
Today is mine and FI’s anniversary. We dont have many days off together since we both work and go to school full time. Well how lucky were we to both end up with our anniversary off!! So we planned a nice date night. Dinner at a fancy restaurant and then a movie. Well we went out to dinner then we had some time to kill before the movie so we came back to FI’s house to hang out for a little while. He lives with his mom (thank god we are moving into our own plave at the beginning of the year!!). Well we walk in the door and we hear her yell oh thank god your home I have so much for you to hep me with. I told FI tell her no we have to be at the movies in a half hour. Well FI did not tell her no and now here we are a hour and a half later and she is still finding more crap for him to do. We already missed the movie and im pretty sure date night is now over. God i really just want to strangle FMIL sometimes! She knew we were on date night too but she is selfish and doesnt care about anyone but herself. Ughhh.
Post # 3
I would be pissed off too, but your FI is at fault here. He didn’t say no, he said yes. Did she know it was your anniversary and you had a date night planned? If she did and asked him to help her anyway then yes she is at fault, but so is your FI. If she didn’t know, she isn’t a mind reader, and your FI went ahead and helped her on YOUR anniversary. Then you should be less pissed at her and doubly pissed at your FI.
Post # 4
If this happened I would be super pissed at DH as well.
Post # 5
@thefuturemrsD: Um you need to direct your anger at your FI, not FMIL. It’s him who can’t stand up to her and chooses her over you.
Post # 6
@Jacqui90: No she knew. FI thought it would take him about 15 minutes to help her do the one thing she originally asked him to do. I honestly want to strangle both of them right now. Im sitting here listening to him tell her he needs to go and she is yelling at him and putting him through a guilt trip. This woman really irks my nerves.
Post # 7
Time for your FI to grow a set.
What stops him from saying ” Sorry Mom. We just popped in for a quick visit before we go to the movies as it’s our anniversary. I’ll come back on ___ to do those things” ?
Post # 8
@thefuturemrsD: Ok well you have every right to be pissed off at BOTH of them.
Post # 9
@julies1949: Basically FMIL is a selfish woman who babies her children and puts them down a guilt trips them into doing whatever she wants. 2 of FI’s siblings have lost serious relationships because of her. Needless to say when we move BOTH of us have decided to severely limit time spent with her.
Post # 10
@thefuturemrsD: Leave and tell him he can marry his mother.
Post # 11
@thefuturemrsD: UGH that sucks!!
Yes I would be upset at both FMIL and FI! Unless you guys are always having date night (and it sounds like you don’t), he should stick up for you and your relationship.
Next time you will know that if you get a date night in the coming weeks-AVOID GOING HOME to his place!
Post # 12
How much longer until he can move out? Time to go!
Post # 13
I would be upset too! ..And probably would have brought myself to the movie.. And then told him alllll about how it ends.
But really, he should have told her no, or that he would help another time. Date night on your anniversary is not the time for “15 minute” projects!
Post # 14
I would be more upset with FI than FMIL, HE is the one who said yes (especially considering she has a history of this and you had a date night planned, not to mention the fact that it was your anniversary). He said yes when he should have said no, then didn’t stand up for himself when she kept finding things to do.
Post # 15
@thefuturemrsD: FI needs to step up and break away from Mom’s leash.
I’d be super pissed that he didn’t speak up. On one hand- I think it’s great he loves to help his mom. On the other- there’s a time for that and it’s not durin gannivery/date night.
Also, while I personally love my FILs- I’d likely be hesitant to go back to my FI’s place on a date night in between stuff if he lived with his (needy!) mom LOL
Post # 16
I get that your FMIL is a pain in the ass. However, your FI is a grown man, and he needs to act like it.