- 5 years ago
I’ve been having a big what-the-hell-am-I-doing-with-my-life crisis for the past couple years. I just didn’t know what career path to take. Well, yesterday I had an epiphany, and I know what I want to do! Yay! Now I have to make a mad dash to get in applications for Developmental Psych PhD programs in time for application deadlines, many of which are the first of December.
Anyway, I told my SO this. He is really excited for me, and has said he’ll go wherever my education takes me. He started testing out my name. “Dr. qwerty2k1!”
“Well, hopefully it’ll be Dr. SO,” I said.
“What do you mean? Of course you’ll be Dr. SO (eventually).”
I proceeded to tell him that getting a PhD can make changing your last name difficult, because people will lose track of which papers you have authored/co-authored if you do change it. It can be a setback. The female Post Docs in my lab all kept their maiden name for this reason.
SO started mock pouting, saying things like “No. No! You will me Dr. SO. You have to take my name. I won’t let you be Dr. qwerty2k1!” This led to me telling him that of course I would rather be Dr. SO. I don’t know if that will be an issue for me, but I will have to consider it if I start publishing papers.
Then, SO volunteered that he saw us married in “about two years anyway. So you have to take my name!” I didn’t want to press the subject, because I still believe I shouldn’t start talking about this until right around our 4th anniversary (six months from now) for various reasons. I had thought I might have three years before we could get married, so this is very good news! That would put me on a timeline to get engaged sometime in 2013 🙂
Yay for figuring my life out!