Post # 1
Am I the only person that hasn’t gone searching for an engagement ring to see if it’s in the house? No offense to any bees because it’s kinda cute 🙂 But I think if I found it and it had been a month and still no proposal I’d be driven crazy (which it seems like a lot of bees are from reading some of these posts). And I totally feel for all of you!
Even though it’s hard to be patient, I’d be absolutely dying inside if I knew there was a ring in my man’s desk and not on my finger.
What do you ladies think?
Post # 3
@ChelsBea: I was the one who was here when Fedex came. Of course, I have been part of this process all along. It got here a week ago. I know SO has looked at it to make sure it didn’t need to be sent back, so I am confident that it’s what we were expecting.
I have no desire whatsoever to go search for it. I’ve only seen pictures online, and I want the first IRL look to be when he proposes. I’m excited and obviously thinking about it, but I’m also going with the flow. He’ll figure out the best time to present it to me. He asked if he should talk to my father. I said no at first, but we decided it would actually be a really nice gesture that my dad would respect. I know that is going to set back a proposal a bit while he musters up the courage and time to speak to my dad, and I’m totally fine with it.
Post # 4
I was involved in the ring process so I know for a fact he has it and it is hidden in the house, but no I have no desire to look for it and won’t. When he’s ready to give it to me, he will… so I will simply have to wait.
The REALLY hard part is he doesn’t want me to tell anyone he has the ring and I am dying to tell my sister, mother, and BFF!!!
Post # 5
@ChelsBea: I knew when my ring was going to be ready to pick up! I was going crazy, definitely. He told me that it wasn’t ready on that day and delayed proposing for 3 days for the weekend. I think it was actually in the house for about 24 hours before he proposed.
I guessed that he might have it, but I wasn’t positive. I would not have gone searching either way because I knew he was going to propose right away so that we could tell everyone at our Christmas party. If he sat on it for months though… That might be a different story, I can’t be sure I wouldn’t go hunting in that case.
Post # 6
I designed the ring and picked it up and brought it home and put it in his sock drawer so I wouldn’t have to look at it while I wait.
It’s been 4 months since I brought it home. 7 years we’ve been together.
Lost my mind yesterday, couldn’t stop crying as I was certain he was going to propose for our anniversary on Valentines Day.
Any advice on how to WAIT? How to maybe bring it up again?
Post # 7
@ChelsBea: no way would I go searching. Because if I found it I’d want to look at it, and that would utterly spoil the magic. I hate surprises, but I refuse to spoil this one!
Post # 8
@RheaIzar: Oooo I have no advice 🙁 I’m sorry he didn’t propose. Maybe he wants to do it not on a holiday/anniversary so you guys can celebrate a brand new anniversary?
I see what you ladies are talking about. It’d be completely different if you were in the ring process. I’m not and I really want it to be a surprise. I do actually know I’m getting an heirloom ring, but I’ve never looked to see if it was in the house and haven’t looked for any clues besides how our relationship has been progressing.
@Sparkidoodle: I’m completely with you! I’m dying to see the ring my man has but I don’t want to see it until he’s down on one knee.
Post # 9
@ChelsBea: I don’t think he even realizes that proposing on a certain day will make it an anniversary of sorts. That kind of thing doesn’t really cross his mind.
I know he’s planning something, or he wouldn’t have waited this long.
He doesn’t normally plan, he’s a fly by the seat of your pants kind of guy, so this must be big. At least his kind of “big.”
I’m starting to calm down now, after realizing that no matter what, he’s still the rest of my life.
I hope all you ladies can see past the now as well and into the future. It makes it a TAD bit easier while waiting.
Post # 10
@ChelsBea: I knew he had the ring but I didn’t go looking! It was even harder because we have a long distance relationship so I came to stay with him and he was at work, leaving me all alone in his house with the ring *somewhere*!!! Argh!! But I never looked 🙂 Not once 🙂 Willpower! Now I don’t have to look because it’s on my finger but I was in the house with it for 1 1/2 weeks without knowing where or when I would get to see it!
Post # 11
@ChelsBea: i was there when we ordered the ring, but wasn’t told when it would come in. I sort of half-assed looked for a box, but it wasn’t in either of the 2 drawers I checked,so I gave up. I wouldn’t have opened it, though. Just wanted to know if it was in his possession.
Post # 12
Yesterday I discovered the receipt completely by accident. It’s so tempting to look but I’m determined not to. I just feel reassured that he’s actually got it!