Post # 1
It’s been awhile since I’ve been on here, but if anyone is interested I wanted to give an update. A couple months ago I wrote this post about giving myself an ultimatum if the boy did not propose by a certain time. A lot of people suggested I have a conversation with him. It took awhile for that to happen because I was exhausted from having several similar conversations in the past. But it happened, and while the conversation was so raw it nearly broke us, we realized in the end we really did want to make this work. He finally told me some of his hesistations about getting married, things he had never told me before, and I confessed that my patience was running out. By the end of the conversation he told me he could see us getting engaged by the end of the year, and I told him I could wait for that. <br /><br />Since that conversation it seemed our relationship has really improved, since the “not being engaged” part had really been driving a wedge between us. I’ve been conscious of his hesitations and tried to work on putting his fears to rest, which has helped a lot. In fact, it’s helped so much that back in early May I returned from a work trip and he told me he had started looking at engagement rings. Turns out my few days of absence made him realize he was ready to get married sooner than we both thought! I was over-the-moon thrilled that we were finally on the same page again. 3 weeks ago we looked at rings, and last weekend he proposed 🙂
So there you have it. Thanks to everyone who offered me advice and encouraged me to continue having those conversations with him until we broke some ground — I really think that made all the difference. And while waiting really tested my patience and brought some deep, emotional pain, in the end it was worth waiting for.
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I’m so happy for you! Communication is KEY in marriage. Keep your relationship open, honest, and transparent and you’ll be married for life. Congrats! 🙂
Post # 3
Your post gave me a little tear! Shows the importance of communication and respecting both people’s feelings not just being ready and ditching someone who isn’t yet for genuine reasons
Congratulations to you guys
Post # 4
Excellent news! Best of luck.
Post # 5
ShoeGal89: Congratulations. A wonderful update to hear! 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
So happy to hear you received your happy ending. The best is you have both worked towards better communication which will make for a solid happy marriage.
Post # 7
ShoeGal89: CONGRATULATIONS!!! I remember your other post, and I really thought you sounded so grounded and self aware. I’m super stoked that you have a happy update! I had a similar story, gave myself an ultimatum and took my damn power back… And now we’re married. 🙂
The best part is that you know you can get through anything now. That kind of situation can be a big stumbling block, but you guys are past it now.
Now! How’s about a pretty ring pic? You know we love our ring pics!
Post # 8
Thanks everyone 🙂 glad to hear I wasn’t alone in this and I hope everyone else who is waiting has a happy ending!
Here’s the ring. I hate to admit how much I love it.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2015 - Los Angeles Arboretum In front of the fountain
ShoeGal89: Congrats girl! I remember your post too! Yay!!! 🙂
Post # 10
Amazing story and ring, congratulations!!!
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
Awwwww!!! I’m so happy for you! Beautiful ring!! Congrats!
Post # 12
I remember your story and I’m glad to hear you had a happy ending. That ring is gorgeous by the way. Congrats!
Post # 13
Congrats! Love your ring 🙂