- 9 years ago
My close friend is getting married soon. She says she’s going to tell people that she doesn’t want gifts but, realistically, we are close enough that I would feel strange not getting her something. Especially because she is young and this is her first marriage so they are just ‘starting off’. She has kind of admitted that while she has asked for no gifts, she’d be happy to receive cash (she’s not telling her guests that, just told me as a friend,) but she and her FI just moved into a one bedroom condo together and they have absolutely no room for more ‘stuff’.
Now my FI and I are deciding what to get them. We both feel like giving cash/check would feel strange with close friends. They definitely don’t want ‘stuff’. So…he would like to get them a large gift certificate to a very expensive restaurant in the city so they can enjoy a few meals out together as a new couple.
I think, from a female perspective, that if I was going to get a gift card I’d rather get it for a big, nice department store where I could buy any household items I might realize I needed after the wedding. Or hey, splurge on clothes if not!
He thinks a department store gift card is too generic for close friends and that they will get a ton of these. I think my friend gets to eat out a lot with her FI anyways and while he might appreciate having the cost of that alleviated, it wouldn’t be anything too special for her.
My FI feels pretty strongly about this and because of that I think I’ll go with his idea. After all, they didn’t want gifts to begin with and it will still be a nice gesture. On the other hand, though, I worry that I’ll regret not going with my gut and at least going half and half (one card for the restaurant, one for a store.)