Post # 1
First off, hello everyone! I have been stalking you all for the past week and finally decided to make my big reveal!
I still cannot believe that I AM GETTING MARRIED! Mr. IG proposed on my birthday(YAY!!!!) and we have decided on October 9th, 2010 as The Date. Since my birthday was in January, we are really moving right along!
I have an appointment at David’s Bridal this Saturday. I need HELP. I have never done this before (ummm, for obvious reasons, i.e. I wasn’t engaged).
Is there any Dress Shopping Protocol that I need to know about? I have seen snippets that “you should have your hair and makeup done” and “wear your good underwear” (really? hmmmm, and I was going to wear my holey ones…..).
Exactly what do “they” mean by having your hair and makeup done? I do not leave the house without putting on my makeup and doing my hair, so I am wondering if there is more to it? Am I missing something?
And another worry I have….Am I going to have to undress IN FRONT of anyone??? I am of average size (between an 8 & a 10, depending on how many trips to McD’s I made that week….) but I am not thrilled about dancing around in my skivies in front of anyone but Mr. IG…..
EEEEKKKKK!!!!!! Any words of advice, encouragement, or stories will be appreciated!
Post # 3
You will need assistance for most dresses, but DB provides longline bras and crinolines that cover you during that part–they just hand you the things and you put them on.
Definitely do your hair and makeup somewhat like what you think you’d look like on the day of your wedding, is what they mean by that. Do take pics of the front and the back of the dress, so you can see what you look like, and preferably of the side and closeups of the train/any details in case you don’t buy, want to think about it and need to show them the dress you’re thinking of.
Finally, I would definitely say DON’T get overwhelmed–maybe just try on 5 or 6 that fit your criteria for what you’re looking for. If you’re going with people, let them pick one–they may pick something fabulous for you!
Post # 4
Hmmm….I don’t think I’d ever heard any of that before I went dress shopping….and I still wound up with a beautiful dress that I totally love. So I don’t think the “rules” are strict by any means. Just do what makes you feel comfortable. And as far as getting undressed in front of someone else, there aren’t a lot of ways around that because those dresses are HEAVY and you usually need some help getting into them. But they will help you feel comfortable in any way they can! Have fun!!
Post # 5
Um, I would suggest not wearing make up or perfume. So you don’t accidently get it on the dress. I would suggest to make an appt. specially if you are doing it on the weekend. I would purchase your shoes and bring those along. OR shoes you already own, that are the “right” height you want for your bridal shoes. I would also suggest bringing the bra you will be wearing for the big day. I waited til after I picked my dress to get my bra and it fit completely different w/ it on. So thinking I needed no alterations to needing some sucked.
Post # 6
You really have nothing to be nervous about. I was super nervous, but was pleasantly surprised after going to David’s Bridal.
You have a small dressing room and the consultant will help you get into every dress, but even she never saw me when I wasn’t completely covered. The people that come with you sit just outside the room. They give you a strapless bra to wear (mine was brand new and I ended up buying it) and normally start off with a slip and you just go from one dress to the other.
I went there not expecting to find a dress and just wanted to try on different styles and actually found one on my first shopping trip for an amazing price. Have fun with it though!
Post # 7
First of all you don’t need to have your hair and makeup done when you do looking. This is for after you have chosen your dress and you are making sure you look the way you want to with your hair, makeup, accessories, etc.
I would recommend only bring one or two people with you to look because if you have to many people it can be overwhelming for you and make it harder to decide what YOU want. If you bring people with you or a lot of people with you try making score cards for them to hold up. That way they are still voting but there is less of a chance that someone will make a comment that might hurt your feelings. Not to mention it turns it into a game to keep them entertained too!
I would recommend wearing a button up shirt that day so it is easy to get in and out of your clothes when trying on. Lastly you do not have to strip down in front of the attendant at the shop. They will let you get into the dress and then you can call them in when you are ready for lacing or zipping up anything. The same goes for when you are ready to slip out of one and try another.
If you have any other questions regarding planning or anything at all feel free to message me =) Good luck dress shopping! I hope you find the perfect one!
Post # 8
Okay, I am feeling a bit better about this now. I tend to get worked up easily. I do have an appointment so that part is taken care of already.
I wouldn’t dare buy a bra or shoes before I have picked out my dress though!!! I have an *idea* of my dream dress but I am keeping an open mind. We are having an outdoor ceremony in Maine in October so I would like something simple and elegant….Bringing shoes of the appropriate height is a great idea!
My mother and my sister-in-law, who is my Maid/Matron of Honor, are coming with me. I am only having a Maid/Matron of Honor and no other bridesmaids and I was curious if this was a good time for her to look at dresses as well? Or should this day be all about ME? hehehe
Post # 9
I would not recommend wearing makeup…it may get on the dresses! And even if they do need to help you into dresses, they aren’t looking at your “stuff!” 🙂 Just don’t do what I did…wear neon orange undies! Yep, I got teased…oops!
Definately make an appointment. Also, be careful about giving out your information. David’s Bridal has been known to sell phone numbers and email addresses.
Post # 10
You should have the day be about you otherwise it will be hard to focus on choosing something. You should set up a seperate appointment to look with her.
Post # 11
she can browse the racks while she’s waiting for you to come out of the fitting rooms, but honestly this day should just be about you because it’s enough to handle in itself and there isn’t enough time to focus on both tasks. Go another time with her to find her dress.
Post # 12
Also, some salons will help you, other places you will either have to help yourself or someone that came with you will help (like a sister maybe?). Some places have separate rooms, some just have a screen that you and the consultant can stand behind (in a private room with your guests in it.)
I do recommend wearing a little make-up so that when you take pictures you don’t look totally washed out. It’s kind of like when your hair is all wet in front of the big mirror at the hair salon – I don’t wear make-up every day, but I do for those situations.
I also recommend bringing heels, I liked the way i looked in the dresses better with heels on and it made me feel more dressed up.
Post # 13
haha! you are funny! just relax and go with the flow, and dont get to stressed over it, cause you might not be able to find any dress!!! just go with an open mind look around and when you will havethe right dress on you will know it!
as far as dress code goes..pftt!! just dont wear holey underwear…. usually there is one person with you in the fitting room since they need to assist you with the dress..but the real reason is they dont want you to ruin their dresses, stealing or taking pics.. im not really comfortable either being in a changing room with people i dont know..but they will make feel comfortable… everything depends by places..some places have open rooms where you will come out and show off your dress, othes have room reserved for you and family/friends so you can keep it more cozzy…
u dont need to have ake up or hair done at all…never heard of that… u need just to focus on the dress..
good luck searching! i wish i could go back to that step! UGH!
Post # 14
I went to DB first and was given the long crinoline right off the bat which I kept on the entire time I was there. They left me alone in the dressing room to put the dress on, then I came out and they zipped or laced me up. I assumed that’s how most places operate. Imagine my surprise when I went to a different shop in my regular thong undies having not waxed “in that area” for awhile and the sales lady waltz right in with me. No slip, crinoline OR privacy. I tried coming up with excuses as to why I was standing there in all my naked “overgrown” glory, ass cheeks to the world, but she just looked disgusted, and I never went back.
I’ve also never worn make up when trying on dresses because I’m afraid it would get all over the white dresses. I fear “you break it, you bought it”-type policies.
Post # 15
Do you have any Spanx, or something similar? I wore some high-waisted Spanx and a strapless bra to my appointments, and felt very comfortable, since I was so covered. (I’m very modest.) My salesladies were respectful, but I was still very glad that I was wearing full coverage stuff. Might be an idea for you to try.
The hair/makeup thing recommendation is probably because the way you like yourself in the dress will be colored by how you look in the mirror– if your hair is all frizzy and uncombed and your face is shiny and red, you probably won’t feel gorgeous in the dress, even if it’s the best dress for you. So just go in looking “nice,” without overdoing it on the makeup (for the sake of the dresses). Maybe just some powder and mascara and lip stain?
Don’t let them pressure you into buying anything right away. There’s always time to think about it. Good luck!
Post # 16
I think by having your hair and makeup done, they mean being picture-ready. I didn’t wear my glasses (I plan on wearing contacts to the wedding) and wore my hair down, and minimal makeup, for pictures’ sake. You don’t need a full updo or makeup artist… just have your hair/face look similar to how you plan to wear them!