Hard waiting night and updated timelines

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ugh that is frustrating! Why can’t he have a skype date or FaceTime with them? Is it even important to you that he talks to your dad? I would just have him forget it!

 

And I think we have twin cats!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

AbqAndrea:  so frustrating! I was the same way about not wanting DH to ask for “permission”. Maybe schedule an impromptu long weekend back to the parents’ house? Haha! 

And we have 2 also… They are brothers. They both talk but one is definitely more chatty than the other! Let me see if I can find a picture of the other one.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Her is the other one! And one of them snuggling this  weekend. Sorry to thread jack! I was just so excited to see your kitty as your avatar!

Post # 7
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Worker bee

This sucks, and I’m sorry. It sort of sounds like what my SO is doing…he keeps telling me that something is in the works, that he’s “waiting for something to happen”, etc. Except, we haven’t talked about it at all in a couple months. I’m giving him some breathing room.

We had our first kiss in the rain, so I figured he was waiting until rainy season to do it…but it’s March and we live in the Bay Area so rainy season is pretty much over. Plus who bases a proposal on the weather?? Haha. 

I would maybe let him know that it’s more important to you that you be engaged to him and start planning your future together than have him ask your dad in person. I would hate to hinge your future plans on a technicality (in person vs. on the phone. Dad will understand).

My timeline is always getting shifted around too, and now I just plain have no idea. So you’re not in this boat alone girly! Keep your head up.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I love how this became a cat post!

I’ve been with my man for 7 years, our anniversary was Valentines Day. We designed and bought a ring last December. It’s upstairs now and not on my finger.

I’ve thought many times that he would propose, but he hasn’t. It makes me wonder, why are you waiting? 

He says it will happen this year, but then I think, if he proposes to me in November or December, how much time does that leave to plan a wedding?

I’m going crazy as well, especially because the ring is within reach. I’m trying to be good, I haven’t looked at it since January, but it’s getting harder and harder.  

We’re here for you, we’re all waiting. 

And you can be assured, we’re all just as frustrated.

Men…

Post # 9
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Helper bee

AbqAndrea:  

I feel your pain, as I’m sure many other ladies can as well.  I think one thing we forget about is how unbelievably nervous guys get at the thought of actually popping the question.  Even when they know what your answer will be, for some reason there’s something about putting themselves “out there” that makes them drag their feet.

There’s so much pressure to say the right words while making sure they’re giving you a story to tell your friends and family that they probably overthink it and end up paralized with the fear of messing it up.  Right now in related topics I see a topic subject “How do I forgive FI for not giving me a proper proposal?” Think about how scary it can be that they might not live up to your expectations?

I waited 7 years, and he proposed while we were in the biggest fight we had ever been in.  He asked me to come out to the backyard with him (presumably so that we could continue arguing without the kids hearing anything), but instead he gets down on one knee with the ring in his hand (and stays there for 5 minutes while I tell him how horribly poor his timing is–lol).

Maybe his thinking was that if I will consider marrying him while we’re in this state, then it must be true love.  🙂  Who knows…but they have their own issues and self-doubts to work through.  Just know that when he’s ready, he will truly be ready! 

I’ve always found Ben and Jerry’s Chocolate Fudge Brownie works in times like these. 

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