Post # 1
I have been “planning” my wedding for something like 10 years. And while I knew doing it for real would different and harder (actually have a budget) the one thing I did not expect would be so stressful is finding a BM dress and BM drama. I’ve been a BM something like 4 or 5 times and never have any of the brides I supported mentioned this stress to me… (Though to be fair one mentioned that if she were to do it again she wouldn’t have a bridal party.)
What was your most (surprisingly) stressful planning aspect?
The vendor it took us longest to find… the DJ! That surprised me too!
Post # 3
The DJ is becoming a thorn in my side. We haven’t found one yet due to the experienced ones being way over priced and the not so experienced ones being so cheap they scare me off. Centrepieces are giving me nightmares. I want something so beautiful, but works within my budget.
Post # 4
Deciding the overall big picture – I really wanted something tiny, like running off to San Francisco City Hall with our parents and a few others, followed by some awesome lunch out. My FI wasn’t too keen on that, and neither was anyone else, so I had to learn to embrace the idea of a bigger wedding in my town. That was not something I was completely opposed to – but it was hard to shift my big picture vision, especially with immigration and timing issues brought into the picture.
After deciding to do a more normal sized wedding her, it’s been pretty easy. I’ve only ever met with one venue, one photographer, and one celebrant, and I booked them all. I did lots of research beforehand, so I have been happy with my choices.
Post # 5
I think it’s the little details that are getting to me. Like the sign in table… I have no idea what I’m going to do to make it look cute and cohesive. Dang Pinterest for making me think I have to have a sign in table to make people go WOW =)
Post # 6
I’m dying trying to budget properly. I have a pretty decent guest list set up that FI agrees to. I have a few venues picked out that are alright. But it’s the little stuff. Renting chairs at $2.50 per. Renting tables at $50 for three. It adds up so quickly!!
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Post # 8
Guest list. So many people, so little space.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza
The details/small things (most of which probably didn’t exist before pinterest): cool sign in table, fun stuff for guests to do at tables, fancy signature drinks and signs for them, gifts for parents/bridesmaids, stuff to do at rehersal dinner, etc.
Also the registry. We are having such a hard time deciding what to register for.
Post # 10
@bruinchick4: I hear ya! I feel like it needs to be so elaborate but really my guests will stand there, sign a book and then go and sit down.
Post # 11
The biggest and more surprising problem for me was my bridesmaids. (I’m only having 2 – maid of honour and bridesmaid). Finding a dress to fit two different body types and trying to keep the prices reasonable for them was really hard. Plus, they weren’t as supportive/helpful as I thought they would be in the beginning. After feeling like I didn’t even have a wedding party, I sat down and talked to them and voiced my concerns. Now they’re there for everything and it’s been a great bonding experience for us.
Post # 12
Guest list x 100 for us. We paid a set price for 150 people and anything over that was going to cost $55 a person. We ended up inviting almost 200 and 129 showed up. it ended up working out perfectly.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
For me it’s all the boring crappy details like where to buy tablecloths? how do I make sure people don’t drive drunk the 10 minutes into town? how many hotel rooms to block? BLAH.
Post # 14
For me, the hardest part of planning, is everything, because I’m 3,000 miles away. (I live in CA but family lives in NY, where our wedding will be.) I’ve got my venue already (my aunt’s house) but I still need tent rental… catering… photographer… cake… oh boy. 🙁
Post # 15
@june2013bride: May I ask where you found dresses? I’m still stumped!
Post # 16
The venue has been the hardest for me, thus far.