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Has anybody else started designing alternate weddings in their heads?

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    veganglam    January 5, 2013   Philadelphia; Wedding in NYC

    I mean like, you picked your wedding venue, theme, colors, etc., you love it, you know it's perfect for your wedding.  But then you see all these pictures of things that would be really cute in some *other* wedding...and you start dreaming about planning a totally different wedding, just for funsies?  

    Or am I crazy?

    I love the wedding I am planning.  It is the most 'us' of any wedding I could plan.  But sometimes I look at weddings in the mountains by a stream or lake and sigh, and start thinking about how I'd decorate the tables, what colors I'd like to use, and how the Claire Pettibone gowns I had to say no to due to their informality would just be so perfect...

     
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    historienne       SF/Mendocino

    I'm the exact opposite - we're planning a weekend-long, lakeside event, but I compulsively sketch out designs for a party at the restaurant around the corner in the city.  I think it's just a product of being slightly overwhelmed by committing to spend that much money on *anything.*

     

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    I love to party plan so I know how you feel.  It's my other thing I do just for fun.  My profession is in medicine, but my sis and I love to throw good parties! 

    Can't wait until T and I are already married and I have cocktail parties for his firm and for neighbors.  Cookouts.  Holiday gatherings. 

    I love to plan parties, not necessarily weddings, but could do one if I tried. 

    Some days when I'm super stressed out, I plan our other alternate wedding in my head, where we jet to St. Lucia and just do it quickly there and have a short honeymoon.  I've already got the bouquet and bout!  

     
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    veganglam    January 5, 2013   Philadelphia; Wedding in NYC

    historienne, that is SO cool...so your friends and family are all staying with you lakeside for a week?  What a great, novel idea.  I am jealous.  I would love to be able to spend more time with my family and FI's family than the one night we'll get.

    Yeah bellenga, I look forward to merely having a place of my own to entertain in once I'm married!  I also love party-planning, even though it is totally unrelated to my bland (but I <3 it, of course :P) academic career aspirations...  And YES, we are honeymooning in St. Lucia, and the villa we are staying at is SO GORGEOUS that I can't say it hasn't crossed my mind to switch gears and go for a destination wedding.

     
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    AzinAugust    August 2010   Sedona, AZ

    Yes- and it's exactly because of that I didn't enter to win a free wedding. I started planning a Desert Botanical Gardens wedding in my mind... it can become addictive.

     
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    smith207    October 2, 2010  

    GUILTY! But, I have taken it way further than you.  I have not just planned alternate weddings in my head, but actually written them down on paper.  I have a plan B, C, D, E, etc. for everything with fully-researched budget breakdowns.  While my FI agreed on our current wedding concept, I have a million other ideas should something not work out.

    My favorite "other" wedding is a ceremony in the local park we used to play in as kids, followed by a brunch reception.  This is not feasible due to the weekend farmer's market set up in that very same park and the high probability of inclament weather in Michigan, which is why we picked an indoor venue.  But a girl can dream....

     

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    Everyone does that to some degree even if they claim otherwise. With all the possibilities out there, it's impossible not to plan ideas for other dream weddings but that doesn't mean you will actually go through with any of them due to logistics, budget, etc. There's nothing wrong with fantasizing either as long as you don't let it take over the wedding you are planning for real life.

     
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    PirateJenn    June 21, 2011   Denver

    I do this all the time, granted, i'm helping a few other people plan their weddings too....

     
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    Anchors    October 10, 2010   Knoxville, TN

    YES YES YES! I do this on a regular basis! I think I'm going to make this a full time job! (since it's already my current full time job, I'm just not getting paid!)

     

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