(Closed) Has anyone a 'seat yourself' wedding reception?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have been to a open seating weddings only a few times. I didn’t like it. I found that friends and family who wanted to sit together and crammed extra chairs into other tables. So it made it a nightmare for servers. And made it awkward for us guest who didn’t know other people at the wedding.

I do think if you have a small intamate wedding it’s easier to do. Also you can just assign tables and not specfic seats.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would say it depends on the style/feel of your wedding.

Ours was a seat yourself, I think it worked out pretty well. We had a buffet and it was really laid-back. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I went to a wedding like this and it was a DISASTER for seating. It is worth the effort and stress to make a seating chart.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Our guest count is at about 100 and we’re having a “seat yourself” wedding.  I’m not sure many people would consider 100 guest an intimate wedding but it will be for us because it’s mostly family and close friends.  I am only reserving a few tables for my parents and our out of town guest but besides that… I don’t really care where everyone else sits… it’s all family.  IF they can’t be happy for you on your big day because of where they are seated than they shouldn’t be there in the first place. That’s how I see it. 😛

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had open seating and I personally think it was better.  We would have had a hard time with the seating chart because we had quite a few no shows- entire families even so it worked out perfect.  Seating chart would’ve made it harder with the no shows, plus all of our friends/ family got to sit with who they want.  No one even crammed chairs where they weren’t needed, out tables all sat at least 8 and we had some long ones that sat 10-12 so the bigger families that wanted to sit together sat there.  We did save two tables for groomsmen and bridesmaids and our parents, but we had plenty of extra chairs/ tables so it was perfect.  We planned and had seats for 160 but only expect 145ish, but ended up closer to 100. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We had open seating, but then we also had a cocktail buffet instead of served dinner. Open seating was wonderful for us, and everyone mixed and mingled beautifully.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’ve been to many weddings and I’ve yet to attend one that had assigned seating. Unless there are special circumstances that require assigned seating (ie bad divorce and mom and dad won’t be near each other or caterer is serving a pre-determined plated meal), I have never understood why it’s necessary. It seems like more trouble than it’s worth.

Then again, I come from a very, very social (and large!) family and group of friends. Finding a place to sit or a having to make friends with a new set of people for an evening has never been an issue. From my experience, people at weddings rarely remain in their original seat anyway, as there’s so much socializing and dancing going on.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re planning on doing this for our 50-some-odd guest wedding this September. I’m a little tiny bit nervous about it because I need a way to send people to the buffet at different times. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@subjunctivitis:  Number the tables and have your DJ announce that it’s time for “tables one/two/whatever” to go to the buffet.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@maraschino:  But if people are milling around for cocktail hour and we haven’t assigned seats? Also, we’re having iTunes dj. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Personally I’m not a big fan of assign seating. Especially when It’s just Handsome and me. I’m a very anti social person and being put a table with people I don’t know gives me a mini panic attack. It’s super hard for me to strike up a conversation. So most people think I’m rude for not talking to them.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Hou25:  Same here. 100 people, all close friends and family…I don’t want to tell them where to sit, we’re all adults!!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We had an open seating reception.  It worked well for a sad reason.  Everyone from my side of the fam had to travel from out-of-town.  B/C of this, several didn’t show up.  Sigh.  It was nice though.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’ve been to an open seating reception, and it was okay. I felt a little awkward when it came time to choose seats — it was a co-worker’s wedding, and I wound up sitting next to our boss. It was fine once the music started though — I didn’t go back to my seat much at all!

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