Post # 1
Idk it’s so odd….I msged my fiance’s aunt to ask for her address for the invitation and she wrote back “i dont mean to be nosy …but why are you guys getting married.?”
Ummm is it just me or is that a really rude question?
Has anyone ever asked you that? If yes, how did you respond?
Edit: btw she knows we’ve been engaged for a year and a half…
Post # 3
Was she putting the feelers out to see if its a shot gun wedding?
I smell drama about your relationship.
Post # 4
@Eva Peron: I knowww! We have had no drama, that’s why it’s so strange. No breakups/makeups or anything…and if it was a shotgun wedding why the 1 1/2 year engagement and destination wedding in hawaii?
By The Way she has been married for a couple of years and revealed to me last time I saw her that she was cheating AGAIN–so maybe sour grapes?
Post # 5
@sylvia.riggle: I would write back something ridiculous, like, oh, well, he’s great in bed and that’s all that really matters, right? lolz. just kidding. but really. totally wonder what her reaction would be!
Post # 6
Yeah. When we were home for our wedding we went out for drinks with some friends and while I was out smoking with one of them (I only do it when I drink!!) he asked why we were getting married. He’s a Mr. Philosophical Go Against The Grain type of guy so I think he just didn’t understand why we wanted to participate in that particular social construct. I wasn’t offended or anything.
However, your aunt sounds like she was just being a bitter hag. Her question was definitely rude.
Post # 7
Wellllll… my own mother has asked. She is in a bad marriage with my dad (they are still married).
She’s asked me why do I even want to get married. Her general feeling of marriage – “Why would anyone get married is beyond me!”
She has told me that she cannot even FATHOM why anyone else would purposefully choose to get married. As if it were extremely difficult to imagine a marriage out there that would actually be happy and normal – she cannot even picture it. I asked to try to picture for just a moment and she could not. Kind of sad.
Post # 8
@sylvia.riggle: Ive been asked that. I’ve also been asked if I wanted to “play the field a little bit more”. A family member, who’s own marriage stinks, kept asking me if I was sure that I wanted to get married.
Post # 9
I was asked at a conference, by a much older colleague, why I was getting married, since marriage is a fundamentally patriarchal institution. She also said, “How do you feel about participating in a privilege that isn’t available to gay people?” To which I replied, “Well, I’m getting married in Massachusetts, and it IS available to gay people there!”
That shut her up. (I do recognize that it’s still FAR from complete equality, since my gay and lesbian friends’ marriages aren’t recognized by the federal government, which is bullshit.)
In her defense, she is in a decades-long partnership with a man, they have two grown kids, and they’ve never gotten married, so at least she’s living her principles!
Post # 10
Whan I get asked that question I always answer the same way:
“So I can change my name.”
That usually shocks them into not asking any more questions… YEAH!
Post # 11
I dont think anybody ever asked me that, the only question I kept getting is “why are you waiting so long to get married?” We were only engaged for 14 months before we got married, not like we are wating 2+ years!
Post # 12
@happyface: Thats the best answer for that question!! love it!
Post # 13
My so called BFF (now former Bff) has asked me and even tried her very best to talk me out of being with my Fiance several times. She barely even knows him. I later found out from her sister that BFF told her that she “hates me for living her dream” and Bff thinks “she’d be better for him” WTF!!!! No we are not friends anymore. I tried to ignore it but who wants to be close to someone who wants your man? After her sister pointed it out to me it was obvious. I told Fiance and he laughed his butt off. I don’t think it’s him she wants, she just wants to be with someone. Too bad she couldn’t stop trying to hurt me and flushed 16 years of friendship down the toilet.
Post # 14
lol good to know that other people agree that it is a snarky question, I thought maybe I was just being sensitive!
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
The only person who asked was my minister, as part of getting to know us, and I had no problem with him asking. No one who knows us has asked-before he proposed, a number of people asked when I thought he might.
Post # 16
People who are bitter about marriage have asked me before. It always goes a little something like this,
“Why get married? It’s a 50/50 chance these days.”