Post # 1
I am in the begining stages of becoming a Gestational Surrogate “GS”(Their egg and sperm my belly) I am working to find a couple to be a surrogate for at the moment. It is a really exciting but frustrating process. Finding a couple who you click with is a whole lot harder than I thought it would be, and turning down couples is just so hard.
I was wondering if there is anyone who has been a surrogate or has used one to give me a little advice on surrogacy.
Post # 3
I havent. But kudos to you! I dont think I could. I’d get too attached.
Post # 4
@MsPanda: just a question and no snarkiness intended! Are you doing it for the money or? what is your motivation? I’m curious becuase it is an very hard thing to do!
Post # 5
This is really interesting. I haven’t been one, but several of the mom’s I’ve seen on the mother and baby unit as a nurse were surrogates. I’d love to learn more- how do you sign up? How did you decide to do this? What is chosing the couple process like?
Thanks for offering some info on this!
Post # 6
I was talking to my OH about this last night! About using one I mean, not being one!
Post # 7
@MsPanda: A friend’s wife was a surrogate for another couple that we didn’t know. She had already given birth to 3 children of their own. I think she was actually matched with the couple through an agency, however, I remember the husband saying it would help them out quite a bit financially.
Post # 8
I don’t have any advice to give you, but you rock. Really and truly, I think it’s fantastic what you are hoping to help another couple with.
I re-met a girl I used to work with recently, while catching up she said she had 4 kids, and was working on #5, but she was a surrogate for that one. My only response was “That’s so cool!” And I really think it is!
Post # 9
Wow, this is super interesting. If I wore a hat, it would be off to you!
I haven’t personally known anyone who went the surrogate route, nor anyone who was one. I think it’s a very delicate situation, and anyone, even mentally stable should also seek therapy just for precautionary measures.
I say this because it might just hit you like a ton of bricks one day, even if you are totally fine with the process..hormones and emotions do crazy things!
This is amazing, though, and whatever couple gets to experience this with you will be so lucky!
Post # 10
My parents neighbour (and good friend) is a surrogate for her sister in law! She’s near the end of her pregnancy with her SIL’s twin girls 🙂
I think it’s such a beautiful gift to give someone who for whatever reason can’t carry their own children.
Post # 11
@prettyinpink11: I actually was going to do it what they call “non-Comp” Where you are only paid your costs for a cousin, but she ended up getting pregnant and didn’t need me anymore. I want to do it for the experence and to give a family a child. I have two girls of my own and just want to give the joy of a child to another family!
@FoolsintheRain: You can choose to go through a Agency or a Independent. The process varries from state to state and country to country so my suggestion is to go onto a local surrogacy agencies webpage and see what your state requires.
@Laurengrapes: My suggestion to using a surrogate is not to pick the first one you are matched with. Make sure to pick someone you actually get along with and make sure you and the surrogate have the same expectations.
@housebee: You do get a good amount of money going through a agency but how high that was amount was made me feel uncomfortable. I am talking to a family who can not afford such high fees, I am working with them on what is fair and they can afford. I would rather the couple have the money to raise their child. (nothing against surrogates through agency it just not for me)
@SweetVanity: Thank you! I am so excited for the experence!
@BellaDee: Once thing about surrogacy is you are offered councling for the whole process and a year after (it is required in the contract, and I am already part of a local support group!
@emmos: That is what I think too! I was planning on doing it for a family member at first, I also offered it to a friend for when she is ready for a baby because she can not carry a child herself.
@allyfally: I have talked to other surrogates and they say knowing that the child is not your changes the whole way you view the pregnancy!
Post # 12
@MsPanda: wow that is so cool! Make me want to do that one day 🙂
Post # 13
My hub and I will likely need a surrogate if we ever do have kids. I think women who are able to do this are wonderful. Kudos to you.
Post # 14
@Brittanyg20: If you have any questions feel free to ask!
@HappySky7: If you do need a surrogate in the future I hope you can find a great match you your family!
Post # 15
No advice just want to chime in and say although I am 30 weeks along with my own now I have spoke with my husbnd about being a surrogate for someone else after this one. I am healthy and this pregnancy has been fairly low-maintence and dare I say easy so far. Would love to help a family reach their dream of having a child. Kudos to you, would love to hear any more information or an update on your story.
Post # 16
@MsPanda: Well for now we’re having a hard enough time getting pregnant on our own.. (11months)..but hopefully it will happen soon! I would like to do it in the future when I’m finished having my own kids.