Weddingbee boards

I started a post yesterday on the The Knot website community boards and was appalled how negative and rude people were on that site. I'm trying to make a decision whether or not to leave that site completely - hard since there are a lot of good resources on that site. But it looks like there are nicer brides here. Anyone else have a hard time on The Knot with rude posters? Should I switch to the boards here on the Bee? Thanks!

@TealChocolate: Wow, thanks for sharing. I thought maybe it was just me at first. But then I realized about 10-15 of the same brides (posting since they got married 5 years ago and still on that site) were bashing other people, just nasty, b*tchy messages to the orginal poster. It was like out of the movie "Mean Girls" only in cyberspace. lol. A lot of their comments are just reflections of themselves, that they have nothing better to do with their time than judge people, make fun of them and say rude things.

@mandb122: I noticed that too! It seems they like to gang up on people who post things. Very frustrating for sure. Also seems people post stuff on the Knot boards that have absolutely nothing to do with wedding planning or wedding related topics. That's one of my pet peeves, I guess.

@TealChocolate: Aww, thanks! I think that you might have just convinced me to delete my account, ha ha.

@MissDonnaAnne: That is true, I'm in Alaska, so the local board is there but hardly any activity on it, so I guess I could just come here and every once in a while check out the local Alaska board on the Knot.

@Bellebellebella: OMG, yes, the wedding woes people! And yes, they did that to me - quoting me over and over again. One even googled me and found a personal blog of mine and posted the link for all to see -- none of anyone's business. I started to feel a little violated and harassed at that point. What a way to welcome a newbie, huh?

@enoh102: Yeah, the videos drive me crazy, I learned to just turn off my computer's speakers and ignore it.

@Bellebellebella: I should have reported them but I have a feeling it would have probably fueled their fire. I know exactly what you are talking about when someone is looking for legitimate advice and they take it as a cue to criticize the person. And heaven forbid if that person tried to defend themselves. This mob ladies would then attack the person for not being open minded and listening to everyone's advice, no matter how blunt it was or rude. And then that's when the name calling started. Insane is the right word, Bella!!!

@Bellebellebella: the quotes in their signatures was surprising. They really wanted people to see what others had written about them, like a badge or something. It was a little weird. I didn't know the meaning of snarkiness until I stumbled upon Knot boards.

@Bellebellebella: Yeah, me too... what is that board?

@SweetRose2011: how awful! i saw a lot of that tearing a bride a new one type thing going on. it's amazing anyone lasts longer than a few days... glad i am discovering WB and how sincere people are here, and they still give good advice!

@Statutory Grape: wow, that is really sad. You'd think the moderators would be there to help people and follow the site's rules. When I made posts, I had people commenting on me who had gotten married 6 or 7 years before, pregnant with their third kid and telling me I'm stupid. I thought the site was for current brides or people recently married. I thought to myself, do these women have nothing better to do with their free time??

The boards on theknot have been like that since prior to 2004 and clearly have not changed.  When planning my first wedding a large group of us from similar demographic locations split off entirely and made our own group.  We're online friends to this day.

@babybritt143: that's a shame! After reading all the replies, including yours, I am realizing that this is a much, much, much better site. Seems that people here are more helpful and have less of an attitude. Those Knot brides are just brutal.

@ClairDarling: That's ridiculous that people wouldn't want good advice from experts. Yeah, certainly doesn't make sense to not ban the people breaking the site rules. Funny how the moderators are the worst offenders too! WB seems to do really well with keeping brides postive and keep the harassing/snarking at a minimum.

@curlygirl: that makes a lot of sense now. The group of ladies that gang up on people over there on the Knot are people who got married in 2005, 2006, 2007 and still on there bashing newbie brides looking for advice.