(Closed) has anyone done the waiting period waiver?

posted 9 years ago in Boston
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

In my experience, judges do not enjoy granting such waivers for non-emergency circumstances. That does not mean it won’t happen but it is definitely a risk and could make for a very stressful Friday. You don’t have to apply for a license in the town you are getting married in. Perhaps you could map out the closest town in MA from NYC and you both could take a half day off (drive up/apply/drive home).

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wow!  Our rabbi had told us they were pretty much automatic, especially since you have the option to go to a different court if the first one does not agree.  We’re in DC, and don’t plan on getting to MA until the day before the wedding.  I’m trying to figure out whether the 16-hour round trip to get the license beforehand would be worth it to avoid that anxiety.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I would call the local clerk and ask just to be sure there won’t be any problems. It would be horrible to plan a wedding and then not have a legal ceremony!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Also, check into how EARLY you can get it.. like, in NJ, you can apply up to sixty days in advance, and pick it up thirty days in advance… any chance you can get there to apply any day prior to the wedding, and then pick it up on that Friday?

I concur with other people… definetly call the clerk you intend to go to before you try doing this, as it could make for a very stressful wedding weekend.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

In Tangipahoa parish (parish in Louisiana = county in every other state), the actually have ones that have been signed by a judge granting the waiver – my first husband & I were automatically given one. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

well definitely don’t mess with the honeymoon!!!! 🙂

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Is taking an unpaid sick day an option? Just calling in the day of and saying he’s sick?

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m in a similar situation.  I was under the impression that it is hard to get waived.  We are coming from CA and I just can’t afford to take any more time off. 

Luckily, my boss agreed to let me work from home for one day while in Boston, so  we will be able to arrive one day earlier than expected (Thursday).  Our wedding is on Sunday and my cousin is our officiant-for-a-day.  So we are going to have her be the officiant for Monday instead of Sunday (Sunday will be too early).  We will still have a ‘mock’ wedding on Sunday and then just have her sign the license on Monday.  We are not telling anyone that the Sunday wedding is a mock wedding.

 

Your other option is to get married ahead of time in NY and then just have a mock wedding in MA.  Just don’t tell anyone.

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

[email protected], I wouldn’t call the actual ceremony, with everyone there, the "mock wedding" – a lot of times, when people do it, it’s more like the real ceremony, or the ceremony of the heart, and the one with the legal stuff is just that – signing the paperwork, or the legal ceremony.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Gilneas – I know what you mean.  I never would’ve called it that on my own.  When I called city hall, that’s what they called it.  I latched onto it because it was just easier to say without needing any further explanation.  I like ‘ceremony of the heart’, that’s cute.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Just a follow-up:  we also requested the waiver in Worcester, and got it without incident.  Our judge asked even fewer questions than yours did.  He asked us why we wanted a waiver.  We explained that we lived in Maryland, and thus had been unable to get there earlier to get the license, but that our ceremony was scheduled at Temple Shir Tikvah in Winchester for the next day.  He then told us he was granting the waiver, without asking any further questions.

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