Post # 1
I was in a bridal shop in Leeds a few weeks ago and the lady putting me in dresses kept telling me that I was very short. This isn’t something that has gone unnoticed by me! She put me in one dress that looked lovely, but then proceeded to put me in other dresses that were too big and she didn’t pin or nip them in to fit my shape. She left them hanging off of me in a very unflatteirng way, with the hips practically by my knees, and then told me, “your legs look really short in this one” and, “you’ve got short arms and legs, you can’t wear this style”.
She only put a few dresses on me (and wouldn’t let me choose any dresses myself) but she was quite insulting and told me that I could only wear the style of the first dress otherwise I would look too short. I’m not the shortest girl to ever set foot into her shop I’m sure (I’m 5’3 and a bit), and I found it very strange.
When in other shops I was given nothing but compliments about my shape! Has anyone else had an experience like this? I don’t mind someone being honest if something doesn’t suit me, but she was just rude!
Post # 2
Wow she sounds rude! Ignore her i bet you look amazing! xxx
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2012 - Centro de recepciones Los Incas
i had my dress custom made for me, so i had to deal with the dressmakers constantly….. they would always comment that i was too skinny and needed to put weight on….and i kept telling them im just naturally thin and tall… and it got old after a while hearing like “do u not eat how are you over 5ft 7 and only 97 lbs” over ans over again that it got irritating….
thats weird though 5 ft 3 isnt that short…5 ft 4 is average for an american female so i wouldnt consider you short short….(ive know shorter brides) i did also get a little bit of an insult froma friend that went with me to try on the dress, she said to me, your lucky your so thin and dont have hips, if not that weight of the dress at the hips would make you look fat…..i was like um thanks? *rolls eyes*
this was my dress i had made by the way, i thing a more hippy person could have pulled it off… (the friend that came with me was talking about how it bunched up at the waist… maybe the sales woman just sees soo many dresses on people she knows what looks right on them, she still shouldnt have been so rude to you she could have suggested ïn my experience etc.¨ without making you feel bad…. i wouldnt buy from that place if i were u
Post # 4
Luckily, I was never insulted during any of my bridal appointments or fittings. Although, there have been a few laughs about my butt protruding out so far that the dress won’t come down over it. We actually have to pull the dress UP instead of down.
Post # 5
glamachica45: You look beautiful in your dress!! I don’t know why the dress makers would have insulted you. It’s just something I don’t get, I don’t know why people feel the need to make other people feel bad! You must’ve looked so graceful coming down the aisle in your dress, you have nothing to worry about. It’s always difficult when so many people’s opinions are involved. I wondered if the lady in the shop had seen so many women that she knows what suits them, but I also felt like she didn’t really have anything else to offer me so she was just pushing that one dress on me! Sorry, I made a typo and I’m 5’2 and a bit! So not too short, but short enough!
jenilynevette: I don’t mind having a laugh about the size of my bum and thighs, I actually find it funny when a dress looks perculiar on me! It defintiely make the decision process easier…! I don’t think you should ever leave a bridal appointment feeling disappointed in your own body though, that’s the issue I had with that lady!
Post # 6
I walked into a bridal shop a few weeks ago and a salesgirl walked up to me and asked what I wanted (from her) without greeting me and when I said I was looking to find a wedding dress, she sighed and said “So what are you, like a size 8 or 10?” Like it literally pained her to help someone who was larger than a size 0. People are weird.
Post # 7
KatiePerry: That’s awful! I hate it when people are like that, you don’t go into a place like that to be looked down on or made to feel bad. Even if I found the most perfect dress, I wouldn’t want to give my money to someone like that!
Post # 8
Rachaelemma: The entire world likes to point out that I’m tall. Dress shop or elsewhere. I’m 6’1, so while I’m tall, there are lots of women my height and taller. And I always feel like gasping and leaning in and whispering “I know, but don’t tell anyone!” Whenever someone makes a comment like “You are SO tall.” Dude, I’ve been this height since I was 13.
I didn’t get insulted at a salon. I did notice that at Davids the salesgirl had no idea how to manage my height or dress someone my height. She had no idea which dresses could be made extra long, no idea if they had any extra long samples in store (I kept trying on dresses that ended at my ankles or higher) no idea how visually huge a girl of 6’1 would look in a GIANT tulle ball grown, she also had no clue how to play up what I have and what I don’t have (a decent rack, very slim hips.) Some people just aren’t good at their jobs.
So you have my commiseration, from the other end of the spectrum.
The salon where I did buy my dress – they got it. I ended up in a dress most girls can’t wear because its proportioned for a very long person. And it is perfect.
Post # 9
I had almost the opposite experience. Being around 5ft3 myself I got told by one sales assistant ‘this dress suits you as you are quite tall’ ?! It was at that point I lost all faith that she knew what she was talking about! She had also given me a lot of misinformation about the dresses etc.
I made another appointment there with someone else and had a much more beneficial experience!
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood
I didn’t have any negative experiences while shopping for my dress, but I was talking to one of my professors about the experience and she shared that her consultant told her that there was NO WAY she would ever be a beautiful bride on her wedding day.
I couldn’t even believe it! So my professor said she took her mom and their money and marched right out of the store.
Post # 11
I had a manager come over while I was trying on dresses at David’s Bridal and ask me if I had found anything I liked yet. I told her that I liked a lot of them, but there were little things about each dress that I didn’t like, and she said, “Honey, if you don’t like something about every dress, it’s really your body that you don’t like something about, not the dresses.” I was just like, “Okay…” and went back into the dressing room. It was majorly insulting.
Post # 12
I was informed by the associate at a David’s that I was to large to try on any of the Vera White collection. I’m a bridal 16, they had one dress in a 22 and one in a 12. I asked her if it was possible to just pin me in them to see what they look like. You would have thought I asked her to sew me a brand new dress with her reacton/eye roll. Needless to say I will not be returning to this location.
Post # 13
I called around a few bridal boutiques in my area and when I told them my budget was under $1k, they all scoffed and told me to go to David’s Bridal. All my respect for David’s Bridal, but their gowns are not what I visualize myself in (I am not a fan of traditional wedding dresses). It just really bothers me that all these bridal boutiques think that if you’re not willing to dish out $3k or more on a wedding dress that you only wear once then you HAVE to go to David’s Bridal. It doesn’t even cross their minds to offer a range of prices in their own boutiques or that there are other alternatives. And their tone of voice when they say David’s Bridal makes it seem like it’s insulting to even go there. What a bunch of snobs!
So far, I have only gone to BHLDN and one bridal boutique for trying on dresses and I actually wish they would have given me more criticism. They refused to tell me which style they think would fit my body type better or what color they liked on my skin tone, etc. I understand how insulting it can be to receive criticism that either isn’t accurate (like your experience) or wasn’t asked for, but if you ask for it, they should dish it out.
Also, there are a number of styles that you can wear. I am 5’4″ and there were a few different styles that I liked on me, such as A-line, trumpet, and sheath. I did try a poofy ballgown dress, and that overwhellmed me and made me look shorter. You should go to another boutique and get better service.
Post # 14
I am not engaged so I haven’t been wedding dress shopping . But I have done numerous pageants and have had to be fitted for dresses or tried on lots of dresses in dress shops and the consultants were always annoying. I am all legs no torso and they felt the need to remind me of that every single time I went. “Shorter dresses may look a little inappropriate because your legs are long, dress that highlight your waist make you look short and thick”. Maybe because they are trying to dress people their best they focus on your so called “flaws” and try to hide them. Of course thats still no excuse….
Post # 15
I was definitely insulted at a bridal shop. I went to a small boutique that carried samples in either an 8 or 10, and their plus size dresses were all size 28. I’m a size 20, so probably in the 24 to 26 bridal size range. They you easily clip me into a size 28 right? Not so much. Like your experience, she just let the dresses hang off me, making me look even wider in some of the ball gown/a line cuts and making me look like a rectangle in anything fitted. I asked if she could clip one that was a trumpet style and she said something about how she didn’t know why designers made plus size dresses in mermaid and trumpet because they just make plus size women look lumpy. Seriously? I took my business elsewhere.