Post # 1
I see posts so often about couples who live together who have a lot of home stuff and don’t feel like they need to register for anything. We’ve lived together for a year and lived on our own for a few years before, but when we went to register we were surprised to find we didn’t really have any quality kitchen, home, and dining items. We live in an apartment and have been using hand-me-down dishes, towels, bedding, and cheap pots and pans we used in college.
I’m just curious, since I see this so much on the boards here and on the knot. Are there any other bees out there who have lived with their FI, have not accumulated a bunch of stuff, and are planning on registering for a lot of items?
Post # 3
We have lived together over 2 years, and on our own for years before that. We have lots of stuff but not many quality pieces. Most things we have are nice, but wont last forever.
Post # 4
For us it was kind of half and half. We still had hand-me-down dishes, glasses and silverware. However we bought most of our bedding, pots and pans and small appliances.
Post # 5
i posted in the other one but here ya go!
we both had our own apartments prior to moving in together so we had A LOT of stuff! mostly furniture – we both had dishes and silverware but you are right, we didnt have any quality stuff either so we registered for a bunch of new kitchen stuff like baking dishes and knives – new pots and pans plus some fun things like the kitchen aid and griddle. i packed up all the old dishes and things and are saving them for my brothers for when they finally move out of my parents house – that way they dont have to buy anything.
at this point my house is fully stocked with everything we need (thanks to the wedding!)
Post # 6
We’ve lived together for about 2 1/2 years, and we are in desperate need of registry items. We have things, but like you, almost everything is hand-me-down. Not much of quality.
So yeah, we registered for a ton of stuff. It’s time for things of your own as a married couple, so go ahead and use a registery for whatever needs upgrading.
Post # 7
We’re similar to you. At the point of engagement we had been living together for 7 years and owned a home for almost four?
Sure we had a lot of stuff but they were all crap! Hand me downs, mismatched pots and pans, a set from Walmart. Crappy towels etc etc.
We’re very domestic people so for oru registry we upgraded all our cookware, kitchen itesm. And let me tell you, best decision ever. Cooking is so much better when your pots and pans work!
And with the registry we got our first ever Big Kid Comforter Set. hehe. I’m way too cheap to pay $100+++ for a comforter set!
Post # 8
We’re in the same boat. Been living together for 2 years but almost every single thing we own is a hand me down or cheap stuff from college. We are ready to upgrade to better quality stuff especially since we love to cook and entertain.
Post # 9
We do have a TON of stuff that we really don’t need upgraded. (Pro KitchenAid mixer/good imersion blender/etc) A lot of it I got six years ago during my first marriage and that registry (pots and pans, knife set, but our bedding set needs to be replaced) so I say…that stuff does last for a LONG time so register for it. I think I will register for book cases (we have a single 5 shelf book case and its double and triple deep with piles of books on top, the very top has a stack 10 books high plus there are various piles of books cluttering the apartment) and do something like a honeyfund but for some decent furniture.
Post # 10
We’ve lived together almost four years, and most of our stuff is CRAP. Like IKEA dishes that have been through five moves and occasionally one of them just decides to snap in half. I think some of our towels are ones that I brought to summer camp when I was in elementary school. Almost everything we have was either bought super cheap at IKEA and subjected to multiple moves or was stolen from our parents when we graduated college sevearl years ago. We’ve collected a few nice items as splurges and gifts, but there’s a lot that is in pretty desperate need of an upgrade.
That said, we are not at all domestic. I really don’t like stuff and won’t spend money on things that take up space, plus we’ve known for awhile we were going to get married so we held off on some things that could use replacing (like those dishes).
Post # 11
same for us. We’ve been living together for 6 years, but everything we have is either crap we bought from walmart or hand me downs from his dad or my parents. I’m looking forward to recieving some quality kitchen stuff for sure. I hope we get the pots!
Post # 12
@MM423:We only have the crummy stuff I bought for myself when I moved in to my studio. Sooo, we have 4 plates. When people come over, we have to eat off little salad plates. I can’t use the dishwasher because I can’t even close to fill it.
Most of our pots are hand me downs and the “non stick” is mostly peeled off.
Our registry couldn’t have come at a better time! The only thing we really DO have is a kind-of-nice set of silverware (my parents got it for me when I started college, so I wouldn’t have the rag=tag collection that they had).
Post # 13
I wish! We have so much stuff! Most of it is from our first college apartments (which we eventually combined) and has never been replaced.
I was just writing about this in another post. Lets see… pots, pans, and utensils came from my mom after the home-ec department at her high school closed. Our towels are from our graduation open-houses our senior years of high school (TEN years ago). Most of our dishes are either hand-me-downs or from garage sales – our plates/bowls are from a garage sale where the lady was selling her recently dead mother’s things- they’re straight out of 1970! Most of our appliances are hand-me-downs from our parents or garage sales – my hand mixer was a gift to my mom at HER wedding almost 40 years ago. Our sheets and blankets are from my first college apartment 7 years ago (with the exception of a flannel set of sheets I bought on clearance last year for $10).
The first thing on our ‘to-do’ list after the wedding is going to be have a garage sale. Anything left over is going straight to goodwill!
Post # 14
we have accumulated some nicer stuff, but definitely would love to replace some stuff, and add some new stuff. we’re 25/27, we’ve got really nice flatware and a kitchen aid mixer and some other nice kitchen stuff, but then we have 5 mismatched bowls and like 13 mismatched glasses, etc. Would also love new pots/pans/bakeware because we love to cook. have also registered for sheets, towels, blender, food processor, and other kitchen gadgets. And then some stuff at REI. Our furniture is pretty sad though, hopefully we’ll be able to upgrade that sometime in the near future!
eeek, you should throw out your peely non-stick! thats no good!