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I'm in a wedding in August and the dress she chose for us is... not nice.
It's actually a prom dress with beads, bows, feather and VERY short. I feel so bad that I don't like it, but obviously I wasn't going to tell her.. she beamed when she talked about it and afterall it is her day! I'm not going to get in the way of that.. so I will wear it and rock it! But was anyone else in my shoes? Post a pic if you can!
Good lord. Ive unfortunately never liked any of the bridesmaids dresses ive worn. You just gotta suck it up and rock the dress as best as you can!! lol My last one wasnt too bad since I sorta picked it, but the color was not "me" and I didnt have much to choose from style wise. I dont have a picture, but my least favorite was probably some Davids Bridal Separates (separate top and bottom) that my mom picked out for me for her 3rd wedding a few years ago.
I was a bridesmaid only once and I was not a fan of the dress. Luckily we didn't have to pay for it because her mom made them for all 7 of us. This is the main reason I let my girls pick their dresses. Here is a picture of some of the other bridesmaids because there is no picture of me in it.
Every.single.time.
For some reason, women in my acquaintance with normally fantastic taste cannot for the life of them pick a dress that actually suited another person. Imagine.
I have about 4 BM dresses sitting in my closet never to be worn again. Total waste of money.
Oh yes. The last wedding I was in I HATED the dres. The bride had a very different body than all the BMs and yet chose a dress that fit HER. She didn't even take any of us shopping. She went shopping herself, tried on dresses and picked the one she liked. All the BMs were very slim and yet the dress made us all look pregnant. I donated it the day after the wedding.
i was. it was a long davids dress with a train and the bride added a sash for whatever reason.
you can't see the back but there is a train and there was a loop where the train met the dress that we put the sash through. we wore it in black. it fit poorly on everyone. too big on me (the sash held it up) and too tight on others.
there was another one where the dress was HOT PINK silk. we had the dresses made and had to go to this lady's house and it was creapy. All of our stles were different and mine was horrible. the top was like a tank top. when it was done the top was too big and the bottom was too tight. it was a two piece dress....you know so we could wear the top as a shirt later :)
I wore it as a halloween costume. i was a princess. it was all i had.
I've been in a few weddings where I didn't like the dresses. There was a gold and brown bubble hem dress that was WAY too short on me and there was a pastel purple floor length gown that washed me out and draped in such a terrible way on the front.
I know we're supposed to rock the dress regardless of what it looks like, and I did the best I could, but its hard to feel confident if you feel like you look like a fool.
this one wasn't that bad in theory, BUT (and you can't tell in this picture because of the angle and my slumping) because i have longer legs than the other BMs, it was mid-thigh only on me! the bride actually changed to this dress after i had already bought the one she decided on before and i have to say, this one was better.
I've always been honest with the brides who's weddings I've been in about my body issues and what I wanted to wear -I have a rather large scar on one of my thighs an I won't wear anything shorter than calf lenght. A bride can ask, but it won't happen. Sorry. I'm also considerate of other girls in the wedding party and their body issues too _i'm really busty and look horrible in round necklines, but I had a bride who picked one because her sister had bad chest acne.
I was totally upfront with my BM's about their dresses -I wanted them to feel comfortable because that's what will look best for the day. They ended up both agreeing on the same dress, but my one BM later confessed she thought it revealed too much clevage -so I'm letting her wear a camisole under it.
Oh yes. The last wedding I was in I hated the dress with a passion. It had everything that was trendy at the time. AND it had pickups. Shoot me.
Yup -- it's happening to me right now. I will of course wear it because it's what the bride wants, but I have to admit I was bothered by having to spend $160 plus the cost of alterations on a dress that I just do not like one bit and will absolutely never wear again.
This is exactly why I let my BMs choose their own dresses.
I had the pleasure of wearing this. (Not me...model photo). I hated everything about it...the style, the colour, it was too hot and the material stuck to your skin. I donated it the day after the wedding.
I've been a BM 4 times and have never really loved any of the dresses. But I figure that's normal. None of the dresses were horrible but I'd never wear any of them again. Sure, every bride wants their maids to be able to wear the dresses again, but in reality it almost never happens. And it's the bridesmaids job to just suck it up, smile, and make the day go as easy as possible for the bride. I figure what goes around comes around. We all at some point have to pay too much for an ugly dress, but at some point your maids will do it for you too!
i loved my first BM dress, i even wore it again as a wedding guest ! i got to pick the style though, was just told the color i had to get. my second one i also got to pick, but was limited by designer and waited to the last minute, so i was not in love with it. third was ok, but i ended up losing weight and it was too big, had to get it altered again and i still dont think i will wear it again. my most recent one i really like and hope to wear again when i have an opportunity. i will post my 2 faves.
I have never liked any of the dresses I wore as a bridesmaid. At least one friend was honest with us. She paid for our dresses because she knew they were awful. She said she didn't want anyone to upstage her. LOL got to love the honesty. It looked like this only in bright orange.
I think a better question to ask would be did anyone actually LIKE any of the BM dresses they ever wore! I'm guessing that would be a resounding NO. I'm starting to think designers deliberately make them that way, so the bride truly stands out!
I have never been a bridesmaid.. but one of my friends has been one at least seven times. (She was the president of her sorority) (I did not go the greek route.) She should post some of the dresses that she has...some of them would be great it not for the color.. pale greens and oranges do not look good on everyone. I wish I had pictures!!
@secondchances: Wow. Just wow. I can't believe she actually said that she was picking horrible dresses because she didn't want anyone else to upstage her! I'm of the school of thought that you want your BM to look good because they're going to be in your wedding album for the rest of your life! And really, all brides are beautiful - having beautifully dressed BMs only complements the bride's style and enhances the wedding pictures! I mean, I could see if we all had Pippa Middleton as our BM.... but even she didn't upstage Kate :-)
I've only had one BM dress I've ever liked - the others have been fairly hideous. One bride was definitely of the school of thought that she didn't want us to look better than her, another bride wanted the dresses homemade to fit with her princess theme... the rest have been ok - not terrible but definitely not pretty.
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding in which a friend was marrying her Army boyfriend. So for some reason she had this crazy idea that pink camoflauge would go with Class A dress uniforms. Now don't get me wrong, I love military uniforms, and I understand it is hard to find a color that looks good with olive brown-green. However hot pink camoflauge? The dress was strapless and fell to the knee and had orange tulle underneath to give it lift. we carried orange and pink lilies. It looked like Malibu Barbie meets GI Jane. I have purposely deleted any pictures with those dresses in it and I donated it to the salvation army. Bleh
I was a bridesmaid and thought the dress was horrible! It just didnt flatter my body type at all!
This was the worst dress ever! I wore it in my brother's wedding. It was made by his wife's mother. They didn't fit anyone right, and it just wasn't very pretty.
I can't help but LOL. The worst one I had to wear was a red velvet, long sleeved, empire waist dress WITH a muff! I wish I could locate the pics to scan, but we're in the process of moving. Not pretty at all! lol
Many, many, many times...I *never* ever wore any of mine a second time. Well, except I finally caved and wore the one I had at my brother's wedding for a French skit we had to do in college...I was Marie Antoinette in the skit, if that gives you any clue. It's a very common feeling.
Omg, yes. I have a very large chest, and 2/3 times i've been a bridesmaid, my chest has been falling out of the dress because it only has a small section for the chest area. I ordered them both several sizes larger and altered it down, but I still ended up showing a ton of cleavage. I felt so bad for it, but unless I stuck a handkerchief up there, it was unavoidable! My sister chose a long formal dress that finally covered my chest, lol, and even though I knew I would never be able to wear it again, I was just so freaking grateful to not look like the slutty bridesmaid for once, lol.
My friend is getting married in October, and it's the first time I'm actually pumped to wear one. The one she picked out covers my entire chest, lol, and it's even knee-length and adorable! :o)
The only wedding I had to be in was my Friends. We didn't even have BM dresses. We all wore Our old homecoming or prom dresses from a couple years ago...I guess i was lucky because i already loved my dress
Well it would appear I am in the minority, but I have actually wore all my BM dresses again. They actually were not bad at all.
When I was younger I used to think brides deliberatel chose ugly dresses for their BMs so the bride could look even better in comparison! lol
I was a bridesmaid in a dress I hated. I have huge ta-tas and never ever ever wear strapless dresses or anything I can't comfortably wear a bra with. Strapless bras just don't hold me up.
Anyway, the dress was strapless and I was falling out of it. I begged her to let me have straps put on but she said no, she wanted everyone to match. I was miserable and uncomfortable the whole day and wore a cardigan the whole reception.
@KatyElle: Jeez, that's awful! Definitely not nice that the bride insisted on no straps.
ok, I admit. Some of those are pretty bad. But I still think mine wins...
a split skirt? really? in 2010?... :-/
but actually, 2 of the dresses I've had to buy have been fine, one I even got to wear again! And for a third wedding I got to choose my own dress, and was able to borrow one.
@secondchances: You win worst BM dress.
I haven't likes two of the eight BM dresses I've had to wear. One was a pretty color but the seamstress messed them up, so the bride's mom fixed them. I really didn't like how it fit at all. I don't even know where that dress is, and I've kept all my BM dresses.
The other one was also a really pretty color and I got a lot of compliments on the dress, but I really wasn't a fan. It's not a fit I would ever choose on my own. I was able to pick from three dresses and it was the one I disliked the least.
This makes me sound like a bad friend, hating on the dresses, but I just chalked it up as a necessary part of being a BM. With the exception of one, I've never gotten to pick my own dress. That just goes with the territory!
@mrstj2b: my god. yup, I think you win.
@KatyElle: I hear you on that one! I'm a 32 F and the first thing I asked her was to not choose anything that is strapless. WELL GUESS WHAT.. It's a strapless sweetheart neckline and to make everything worse it has a built in bra.. which even ordering a massive size I hardly fit in. WOOHOO...
I can't get over these dresses! I'm so happy I'm not the only one, wait for an update in August so I can show everyone my hot pink prom dress! ; )
When I was 16 I was in my grandmother's wedding (second marriage). She made me wear the most hideous dress of all time. It was mint green. It had short sleeves and went down to my mid calf. There was no shape to it at all, it looked similar to a potato sack. She then got my shoes dyed the same color as the dress and made me wear mint green tights. Horrible mint green dress, mint green tights and mint green shoes. Needless to say, I was beyond embarrassed. Then to top the whole look off, she made me wear this huge strand of pearls that went down to my stomach and she put a big knot at the end. Everyone that saw it thought I looked ridiculous. After the pictures were done, I changed into a different outfit and all the guests told me I looked much better! I told my grandmother I NEVER EVER want to see any of those pictures and 14 years later I still haven't.
I was a BM twice. Once for my cousin's wedding, once for my brother. We somehow rented the dress for my cousin's wedding (not a clue HOW that happened....) and I liked it. But then, I LOVE the old-west style dresses.
For my brother's, I was told to buy a purple dress, so I ended up buying a pretty spaghetti-strap sheath-style gown that fit like a glove and I wore again for my prom. I can still wear it, if I wanted, but I've kinda out-grown the style, plus my FI isn't a huge fan of it. (I didn't upstage my SIL, but I DID upstage the other girls! LOL!)
I honestly don't like any BM dresses that are semi-affordable. The ones I like are all $200 or more. But I don't want my BMs paying that, nor would I pay that my for a dress that my friend picked out for me. So I'm actually fine wearing a semi-ugly dress and just selling it on ebay later. Haha :)
@Miss Damask: The sad part about my dress is that it fit perfect. She got a great company in china to make her hideous dresses based off of an old vintage photo. Yes vintage was her theme but she picked these dresses because she thought they looked awful! LOL Luckily time has dulled the pain and I can laugh about it now :p
Ha! I think can top all of that. My sister-in-law chose a hideous dress style for her attendants for her second wedding. She just got married for the fourth time in May...
It was a very unflattering shade of pale blue (in February!), and the style was intended for junior bridesmaids with undeveloped bodies. She basically had her seven-year-old daughter pick out a dress, and this dress was then purchased for the two adult females (mid-20s). Obviously, the size was adjusted, but the designer (I think it was David's Bridal - my sister-in-law is American) apparently did not consider that grown women have curves (breasts and waist), as it was cut very snugly in the chest and very big in the waist. Worst of all, I could not try on the dress. I am normally a UK size 8 to 10 (US size 4 or 6), and had given her my measurements, but on the day of the wedding, I had to flatten my breasts with medical tape (I am a B cup - not very big) so I could close the dress. The waist required two safety pins on both sides to prevent gaping.
Worst of all, the fabric - cheap polyester - gave me a rash that took almost one week to heal. I changed out of the dress as soon as the service was over, and wore one of my own gowns that I had brought from home.
At my own summer wedding, my bridesmaids were little girls who wore off-white silk dupioni dresses with light green and blue silk sashes (2 had blue, 2 had green). My chief bridesmaid wore a pale turquoise silk charmeuse dress. She has copper-coloured hair and looks stunning in turquoise. It was cut on the bias and custom-made based on a 1930s pattern. She paired it with a lovely silk flower fascinator. I paid for the dress, and I never thought/expected that she would wear it again, but she still has it, and has worn it several times, including to a summer ball and to an opera festival.
P.S. The dress looked similiar to the one on the far left: http://www.flickr.com/photos/gatochy/1812626796/
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