Post # 1
What I mean is:
When I was a little girl, I always imagined you’d be with a guy, and you’d have a great relationship. And then one day, without ever having even talked about marriage, he would surprise you with a ring- and you’d have no idea it was coming or if he even wanted to even marry you before hand.
I know this sounds silly.
And it’s not how (most) adult relationships are- we talk about things/life/marriage etc……
But has anyone been totally caught off-gaurd? Like not even knowing a proposal was ever going to happen- and then it did?
I knew a proposal was coming, but I think even when we know, we are surprised by the moment.
But I’m interested to hear stories when you literally had NO clue your guy was ever even thinking about this propsal!
Post # 4
@MrsEME: I was! We hadn’t been together that long–14.5 months. DH hadn’t dated ANYONE in the 4 years before me, instead working on his career. I was literally worried to say the word “wedding” or “marriage” around him–I thought I would scare him off!
Early on in our relationship, before moving in together, we had talked about what my “ideal timeline” was, and how many kids I wanted, how many kids he wanted, what faith we wanted to raise our individual hypothetical children in, that I would want to stay home, that he wanted a wife who would stay home…
We basically had the “marriage” talk without really having it. So almost a year goes by. We didn’t really talk about “the future”, and I thought I had another year to wait at LEAST…
Then we went to Niagara Falls (and during the car ride, DH made his infamous comment about engagement being “maybe some day in the distant future”), stood in front of the Bridal Veil Falls, and BOOM! RING! PROPOSAL!
I had ABSOLUTELY no idea!
Post # 5
@MrsEME: Completely! I had lost my job that day and we went to Disneyland because I wanted to go and just have some fun after such a bad day. Turns out he’d had the ring for a few months and just couldn’t find the right moment. I was shocked, he was afraid that I was going to pass out because I was so shocked.
Post # 6
I did not have a clue. I think we had been seeing each other for 16 months when he proposed. I was so shocked that the first words out of my mouth were NO WAY! Then I quickly said yes – LOL
Post # 7
I was totally surprised – it was such an awesome feeling. My FI can’t keep a secret to save his life either lol. We took a trip to Avila Beach, CA (one of our favorite places to visit) and he proposed to me on the pier at sunset. It was a total surprise and very romantic.
Post # 8
@MrsEME: what a fun board! I was almost completely surprised. SO had asked me if he proposed in 2012 would I be ready (I was in a very bad relationship before him). So I said yes I would be. That was that. 2012 was a pretty busy year for us. We both graduated from pharmacy school middle of may (it was a friday). That Monday we went back to class (yes, class lol) for 2 weeks straight so we can get prepped to take the state board exams to get licences. His parents took us to Pebble Beach (him and his dad are avid golfers) as a gift. However, I knew about Pebble Beach for over a year before we went. It was suppose to be a surprise for SO.
We went to Pebble Beach shortly after our classes. Him and his dad golf 3 days straight. The first day me and his mom went to the spa. The second day we joined them. I have never been on a golf course like on the greens. During one of the wholes SO’s dad told me to putt the ball and he will take a picture for me. So I putt the ball and made it in. I was esctatic bc it was my frist try and I made it. LOL. I went to get my ball, i saw a second ball underneath but didn’t think much of it. I gave the golf ball back to my SO and was about to move to the next whole. SO’s dad was like go again. go again. there’s another ball there. Im like uh ok. So i picked up the other ball and gave it to my SO and proceeded to walk away again. Until SO was like “hunnie….” and he turned the ball over and it had a ring attached to it. I was completely surpised and was balling.
Tho I knew he was going to propose that year, i didn’t know when and we were scheduled to go to Hawaii in two months so I thought if anything it would be then. I mean I didn’t even know he had a ring! So it turns out that in 2011 I was away for a 6 week rotation in Alaska, while I was away he went with his parents to buy the ring. His dad and him were in it all along for the proposal. His dad actually told SO he was taking him to pebble beach 3 months before graduation, but his dad put on a show and told SO about Pebble Beach two days before our real graduation and SO pretended to be surprised. So during those 3 months, SO and his dad was thinking of creative ways to do it. It was so cute.
Post # 9
@ssan129: Your in-law’s sound great!
Post # 10
@BrandNewBride: Super cute- love your rings!!
@ssan129: OMG that’s so adorable- and I think it’s super cool how the parents were in on it!!
@rdevaney: I think it’s super awesome that this still happens!! After reading so many threads on here about waiting- or FI has the wrong (not that anything is wrong with that)– I just started to assume every couple basically had a “plan” that needed to put into motion LOL
Yay!! for surprises!
Post # 11
@Duncan: Oh and Duncan, way to be that guy. I think that’s super cool.
Post # 12
This totally happened to me! I’m the only person I know who had NO clue I was about to get a proposal–and it was a real shock. Apparently, now-DH had been researching rings for months without me knowing about it, and I never suspected at all because in the 3 years we’d been together we hadn’t really talked about getting married except for in a vague way like, “One day, if we got married, we could [insert something awesome/mundane/whatever here].” There was never a serious discussion about it. That’s why, when he got down on one knee and proposed to me on a walk through a beautiful park in our city, I was speechless. Totally and utterly speechless and I looked like an absolute fool. He still makes fun of me to this day! My mouth could not seem to stay closed but I couldn’t think of anything to say–I did manage to get out, “Yes” but it sounded more like, “Yes?”–and I sincerely thought I was going to faint. I could barely walk and he had to help me to a bench where I sat petrified for about ten minutes going, “Did you really just do that? Is this a joke?” So…yeah. I guess it was a romcom-worthy proposal, but my reaction was a little less than star-quality. Oooops!
Post # 13
@MrsEME: I think it needs to be a conversation and mutual decision rather than a total surprise.
Post # 14
Thank you!! In general yes the ILs are pretty great but they have their moments just like everyone 🙂
Post # 15
Oh, absolutely! I even knew he had the ring! However, he had sworn that he thought piggy backing on a special occasion was “cheating”. So when he proposed on our fifth anniversary I was completely surprised!! I was so unprepared, I actually asked him, “Are you sure? If you propose now you can’t redo it later!”
Post # 16
@MrsEME: We had been together for 5 years already, so obviously I was just assuming we’d get married, but I never had a “waiting” period; just figured it would happen sometime before were old and gray haired :p. We went on a trip to NYC one summer and I saw a couple having wedding photos taken in times sqaure. . My FI wasn’t around to see (he had run off to call my Dad to tell him he was proposing, but told me he was charging our cameras). It was dinner time, so with him being gone almost 45 minutes, our food taking forever to arrive, and thinking about our wedding that was waaaay in the future, I was pretty annoyed lol.
after dinner I told FI I was too tired to take the 15 minute walk to the Empire State Building, but he convinced me. We talked about our futire wedding plans along the way, and hesaid atleast another 2 years before even proposing. I was kinda bummed, but whatever, nothing I could do. My bad mood continued the rest of the way and during our time on the top of the ESB. he made me take him back to the times sqaure view, and I was so ready to go home I interrupted him while he was saying something. He kind of laughed and then got down on one knee. It was pretty surprising after our talk and I felt like an idiot for being in such a lousy mood lol.