Post # 1
I’m trying to embrace the fact that having people help with the wedding is part of a process and gives people a way to be part of the wedding. However, I’m finding that I get more annoyed with the questions that are asked – and am wishing I never said anything to begin with.
Why can’t I just answer the questions and not get annoyed?!?!!?
Did I mention I have Type A tendencies and usually prefer to just do things myself? 😉
Post # 3
Me, too! Especially since I’m a person that like to get thibgs done right away so I do not think about it anymore and move on to the next project, but my FI takes forever if I give him something. Then I find myself asking him everyday if he’s done it! More work than me just getting it done!
Post # 4
YES! I feel the same way because I’m a bit of a control freak and a perfectionist (especially when it comes to our wedding). I haven’t had much luck with people helping. 1) It feels like I need to do everything; it’s hard for me to see what others can help with. 2) I did have a crafts gathering that hardly anyone RSVPed to and then A LOT of people showed up and we didn’t have enough crafting tools and a lot of the stuff didn’t come out right and I’m going back and fixing it anyway. I guess they call it DIY for a reason, haha. I just want things to look presentable. 3) People offer to help and then when you take them up on it, they flake. 4) People don’t return calls or respond to emails and ask questions that you already told them in those messages. At least FI has been helping a lot more because he sees how stressed I am. I admit, I’m generalizing; there are a few people, mostly my mom who is helping a lot but no one is perfect and it’s not their wedding it’s ours so it’s not as important to them and it shows.
Sorry to ask another question, but what kinds of questions are they asking that are annoying you?
Post # 5
LOL! OMG YES! I’m a total Type A freak and have pretty much done almost everything myself because of it. I had issues relegating putting postage on the invites to the FI. It’s that bad.
Post # 7
yes i want to do everything myself.. i will do do as much as possible myself.. i evn wish i could clone myself and be my own usher, waitress, and photographer.. but i shall just have to trust them to do a good job
Post # 8
YES! I’m a huge control freak and have a very hard time delegating because I never know if things will come out “right”. If I do ask for help, I micromanage, and I’m sure that’s annoying for those helping.
I end up just doing everything myself because it’s easier. Type A Personality…
Post # 9
YES!!I know I’m being a bit controlling, but that’s because if I don’t do it, it doesn’t get done! And I’m trying to be patient with people and understand that this is not the most important day of their lives, so they don’t have the urgency that I do, but that only goes so far…
I asked FI to call a couple of car rental companies, after 3 weeks and a lot of nagging, he gets online, looks for 10 minutes then complains that no one has their rates listed online. Dammit, pick up the phone and call them!
My mom tells me she knows someone that can do our hair, but she wants to get her haircut first and talk with the stylist. It’s now less 2 months before the wedding and I don’t have a hairstylist!
My mom tells me she knows someone who can do dress fittings. Fine, make an appointment. A couple of weeks later, “Do you want me to call her?” No, she will take care of it. A couple weeks after that, “Mom, this needs to be get done!”
My FMIL is addressing the envelopes for us, which is awesome! But, I wanted my invites to go out next week at the latest, they aren’t going to get done for another 2 weeks.
Post # 10
Absolutely. But it depends on the person. FI is great about doing things when I ask. FI’s sister-in-law has been good about taking care of her daughter doing flower girl stuff. FI’s mom has picked up tablecloths from craigslist and mailed them to me. On the other hand, if I ask my parents to do something it involves a long conversation, a whole batch of emails, and it still doesn’t get done. I like my parents, and I’m so used to the idea that as parents they have a certain job, that I can’t get over it and stop asking them to do stuff. I mean what can I expect from the people who bought their plane tickets to the wedding 10 days before leaving, for a wedding that has been planned for 8 months. <end vent> Actually, my mom is okay about things – she did handwrite all the addresses on all the invitations and mail them. She just doesn’t know how to do anything online so she can’t buy anything, and she always pays retail price for everything, which bugs me. I don’t think of myself as type A at all, and I totally trust the pros to do their jobs.
Post # 11
I am also a total type A and I am having a really hard time letting things go to other people. The couple times that I have asked my FI to some things, he has done them willingly and happily, but I have had to step in and either redo them myself or have him redo them with more specific instructions. I am doing 99% of everything myself because I just can’t let go. I have a certain way I want things done, so I feel that it has to be me to do it.
Post # 12
Yes! I’ll admit I’m a total control freak. Not only do things get done more quickly if I do them myself but I know that the tasks at hand will be completed in a way that won’t turn me into a raging lunatic 🙂
Post # 13
@KIKI82: Ditto everything you said!