Post # 1
I am a pet person. I had a dog growing up and when I went to college I got a cat and then another cat after I graduated from college. I still have the 2 cats. My oldest baby is 15yrs old, diabetic and just recently began drooling so we took him to the vet and sadly he has a tumor under his tongue. It isn’t operable. Eventually it will grow and he won’t be able to eat (no time frame was given).
I am of course heartbroken, crying in spurts, sad… did I say heartbroken? Well, I am, he is my baby. I know that probably very shortly I will have to make the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make. 🙁
I still have my other cat who is still in good health. If I had my way I’d get another kitten but DH isn’t too keen on that idea and honestly after going through this heart break I am seriously questioning if I want to go through it all again. It’s just too sad to have to lose your (fur) baby and I know no other cat could replace my baby.
I just don’t know what life would be like without pets. I know this might sound weird to some but I’ve always had a pet. They love you unconditionally, they are always with you so you are never truly alone while at home….
So has anyone gone from having pets to being petless? Was it an easy transition? Are you happy with the decision?
Post # 3
I’m so sorry about your baby!! It’s never easy getting news like that! My sister adopted a cat that was in a similar situation, although she wasn’t as old or as lucky in life as your loved boy (the cat my sister “adopted” was a feral cat we had fed for years and couldn’t catch until a flip switched in her little head and she decided we were ok… So she wasn’t a pampered house cat for very long before her diagnosis)… but I know the probable progression that will happen and it won’t be easy, but take comfort in knowing that you gave him an amazing life full of love and when he goes he’ll be in a better place, without pain and waiting for you. He’ll let you know when he is ready.
As for your question, technically I have, but it was family pets then I went to college… So they were still at home but I lived elsewhere. Then I moved and wasn’t near them and I felt VERY alone. Now I have two cats and a dog and I can’t imagine life without them. Whenever one passes we will give another animal in need a home full of love, but it will only be when we’re ready to open ourselves up again.
I don’t think I could go without having an animal, but I know the hurt of losing a loved pet and it isn’t easy, but with time the wound will hurt less. You’ll know when you’re ready to move on, it could be hours or days or years.
Give your boy some extra love from me!
Post # 4
🙁 Sorry to hear about your cat. I’ll be a mess if/when something like this happens to my baby. No, I’m like you & have never been without a pet. Ever. They’ve come and passed, but I always had them growing up.
I’ve had my doggie since moving out on my own (he’s 9 now) and I couldn’t imagine life without him, or ever having another pet replace him. I know when he passes I’ll get another furbaby though. The older he gets, the more I think about that happening & am mentally trying to prepare for it somewhat I suppose…
Spend extra time loving your kitty, spoil him alittle. Maybe some extra special meals or toys, whatever (I’m clueless about cats). Hugs to you!
Post # 5
I’ve tried but I can’t do it for long, I always end up with an animal of some kind or another. (Usually a “short term foster” situation which is why I’ve had so many… taking in homeless animals to find them a forever home)
Post # 6
My family had a dog from before I was born until I was about 12 or 13, and we had cats in varying numbers throughout the years. There was never a time we didn’t have pets in the house. When I moved out of my parents’ house and into my boyfriend’s (now DH), I spent three months without any pets and I was lonely and miserable. Seriously. I was getting so depressed that DH finally let me adopt a cat to keep me company and I was much happier. We adopted a second kitty about six months later.
While I’ve had to endure the loss of many pets over the years, I still think the joy they bring to my life is worth the heartache I feel when their time with me is up.
Post # 7
I grew up with both cats and dogs and when I moved away for college I didn’t have any pets. I just got a puppy for the first time in 8 years. I missed having animals around, but only when I was with other people’s pets. Having a puppy again is awesome though.
Post # 8
I had to give my dog to my parents (thank God they are even more of an animal lover than I am) when I moved from my house to the apt. Luckily he is only 15 minutes away when I can see him whenever I want, but it doesn’t make it easy. I really missed hearing his collar jingle every morning. I especially miss him when it rains because that was out “mother/fur baby” bonding time. He’d go out just to get wet, run in, and we’d play a game where we’d growl at each other and then I’d towel him off, run, growl, and so on.
I can’t wait to get a house. Unfortunately my baby is too old to make such a drastic change again, but ti will be so nice to have an animal again.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone!! I appreciate all of your kind words and insight. I think I am just going to take it one day at a time and see where that takes me. As one of you said it might take some time to heal before I realize I want to get another fur baby and for all of the reasons you all mentioned it does seem most likely that I WILL someday get another fur baby, of course none will ever replace my Sam but I do think once you’re used to the companionship and love of a pet it’s hard to go without it.