- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
Just curious as to whether or not anyone has ever done this.
We will both be changing our names to a NEW name. Well, not entirely new since it is my FI’s Grandmother’s maiden name.
Why? Well, I hate my name (the name that was my father’s). It sounds ugly and no one pronounces it correctly and I was not close with my father (quite the contrary). So that name isn’t important to me. My eldest son has that name as I was single when I had him and he is 18 now so it’s not important to him that we still share a name. My younger son has his father’s last name and he is used to having a different last name than I do and his brother does.
So, FI’s last name: extremely common and extremely irrelevant to her. As common as “Smith” or “Jones”. Her surname is the surname of her mother’s FIRST husband, a man my FI never ever met in her life, who was long gone when she was born but her mom didn’t want her having her father’s last name and had never changed hers after divorce from her 1st husband so she just gave FI the same last name she had at the time.
FI hates her surname too, but neither of us wanted to use mine for the aforementioned reasons.
So, we started thinking of what else we’d prefer. FI, within the past few years, has gotten to know some of her family on her father’s side, people she never met until recently, and some who knew her when she was tiny but she doesn’t remember. All thanks to the internet and ancestry websites. 😉 Her mom moved her around a lot and kept her from the Dad’s side deliberately. So finally in her 30’s she meets this side of the family and they are awesome (whereas the family she grew up with was horrid) and they embrace and love her like she’s been around them all her life. Two of her aunts from her dad’s side are coming to the wedding and they are in touch regularly, and her paternal Grandma was in tears when they spoke on the phone the first time after not having seen her since she was a toddler. She didn’t know where she was for 30-plus years!
Okay so, sorry to go on and on, but basically my FI and I are both changing our names and going with her Grandma’s maiden name because, well, frankly because it’s nice sounding with our first names and significant for her family connection and reflective of her Hispanic heritage (Grandparents from Mexico on that side).
We tossed around the idea of using a name frm my family tree but I don’t know any of those people, never did, with the exception of my own Grandma’s maiden (Scottish — Mollison), we just liked the other better.
Anyone else do anything similar? What do you think of it? I’ve told a few friends who at first say “Where did THAT come from??” but then they say it sounds really pretty and to go for it. 🙂