Post # 1
I’m just wondering if this has actually happened to anyone: your dress was so heavy that you literally couldn’t stand it any longer and midway through your reception had to borrow somebody else’s spare dress, or sit in a chair for the rest of the night, or something. I know there have been threads here before where people talked about how their dress was reeeeaaaally heavy, but I’m terrified that mine might actually weigh so much that I won’t be able to get my groove on without getting winded. After looking at various websites and seeing brides who mentioned how much their dresses weighed, I fear that mine is around 50 lbs. Yes, FIFTY. I LOVE this dress, and that it’s so complicated and detailed is precisely why. But it adds A LOT of weight. One of my first thoughts when I tried it on is that it is HEAVY. Trying to imagine holding up that dress all night is a bit intimidating. I’m starting to get scared…
Post # 3
My dress is heavy, but it’s no where near as heavy as yours. If you’re worried about it, you could be a two dress bride.
Post # 4
Well… My problem was not with the heaviness, but with the heat. During the ceremony and pictures, I couldn’t feel a thing even if it was warm, because I was just living the moment… Then during dinner, I was getting so, so warm that I could feel the sweat dripping down my legs. I decided it was time to get up and go outside, take some more pictures… As soon as we were done with pics, I went to change in a nice dress I have to go and have drinks at the hotel bar…
But – it was after dinner: our parents were heading in their hotel rooms, and only the friends were staying for drinks; we were mixed with other resort clients… So I felt better in a “regular” dress than my wedding dress – I had had enough attention in one day.
So, unfortunately, yeah it might be a good idea to have something planned in case you just can’t stand it anymore!!
LOVED my dress though, would not change it!
Post # 5
Can you stalk ebay, preownedweddingdresses.com, or oncewed.com for an inexpensive and/or used J Crew or light lace dress in your size? With a soft lace dress you could probably fold it, stash it, and change into it late in the evening if needed.
Post # 6
I’m not sure how much mine weighed, but it was HUGE. Not sure if I’m remembering correctly, but I think I counted 14 layers to the skirt. Most were silk, so light, but still… I’m guessing yours has tons of beading? I’ve worn a couple of heavily beaded dresses in some shows I’ve done, and those can be crazy-heavy.
But. If it’s well made, it should be OK. I definitely wasn’t bothered by my wedding dress, and I had no problems dancing in the beaded ones. Holding them was heavy but, once they were on, they seemed OK for some reason.
Post # 7
I just don’t want to be a two-dress bride. I love this dress so much that I want to wear it alllll night (and to the hotel afterwards…and maybe for the next week after…). I mean, maybe I’ll bring something light just in case, it’s probably a good idea, but if I had the option I wouldn’t change.
And believe it or not, the dress has NO beading. What makes it heavy is all the layers, the hoop, and so on…
Maybe I’m overestimating (okay, hoping) just how bad it’ll be to wear the dress all night, which is why I’m wondering if anyone else actually experienced problematic dress heaviness.
Post # 8
This happened to me! I had major dress regret during the wedding planning time, during the wedding, and even now because of it! My dress was so pretty but so heavy that I didn’t truly think when i bought it 9 mths before the wedding that I would be exhausted on that day, that it would be so hot to wear, didn’t think of any of that!
I ended up buying a cheaply made reception dress to wear for about the last two hours of the reception, but when the actual day came, I was TIRED and HOT that I switched into the 2nd dress after cocktail hour! The original dress was too heavy for October in LA and I was getting cranky after the ceremony so I figured to just change right away! I would highly recommend walking around the store for fifteen min. in the dress…can you do it? How about with high heels?
Post # 9
Wow! 50 lbs! If you don’t mind me asking, what dress are you wearing?
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
LOL! I didn’t have that happen, but I did get some nasty heat rash on my legs (it was about 20 degrees warmer than it normally is on March evenings!) which definitely cramped my style. 😉 But I kept on trucking. It was fine.
Post # 11
My bustle became a pain in the neck by the middle of hte reception, if we could have figured out how to do it correctly, I don’t think it would have been a big deal, but that bothered me more, not so much the heaviness of my gown.
Post # 12
Yikes. Thanks for the input everyone, and some of your stories do scare me a little, heh! The dress is at Kleinfeld only and they’re so uppity that I worry they may not let me do the fifteen minute walkaround thing, though I do think it’d be a great idea. I guess I can always ask (haven’t purchased yet, just am like 99.9% sure about it).
My drestimates come mostly from several other women who wore Pnina Tornai dresses on their wedding, dresses that clearly have much less bulk than mine but were still crazy heavy at 20+ lbs, though I also considered a few other brands’ similar styles. I spent like three hours looking up dress weights, ha. It may not look like it’s actually that heavy in the picture, but when you see it up close/try it on, you will immediately understand why and recognize that it is ridiculously heavy. I’ve posted it a million times on here before but here it is again (I am having a few slight changes made to it). It’s SO MUCH BIGGER irl. This picture is so deceptive. I was pretty surprised when I tried it on (but still loved it).
Post # 13
that is def a lot of fabric.. You should do some leg exercises to so when you sit down you can cope with the resistance- Just kidding!
The dress is gorgeous tho! I cant wait to see piccies of your wedding day.
My dress feels super heavy. So I hope I can handle it too!
Post # 14
Haha, I agree with ccrane. Start doins some serious squats up until the date!
And I can’t imagine doing that dress with heels. What are you putting on your feet?
Post # 15
One of the dresses that I tried on was so heavy it felt like it was crushing me. It was my absolute favorite dress and I had to opt for a different one because it was literally weighing me down. So knowing what a really heavy dress feels like, I would say bring a change of clothes just in case. You dont want to be stuck in a chair for your entire reception.
Post # 16
Good advice guys, thanks! Fortunately I am in the habit of doing lots of squats I have done them religiously five times a week since I was fifteen. My frustration as a young teen was my lack of butt (I had NONE , my body just slid in a straight line from my back to my legs), well, all those years of squats gave me more butt than I could have ever imagined. :O But also well-defined thigh muscles!
I’m also going to start biking about five miles every day so my legs should be good and strong and able to hold up that dress by wedding. I hope! I will probably bring something else just in case but I really hope I can manage with just my lovely <3
Good luck to everyone else with heavy dresses. We can do it! 😛