Has anyone had/attended a Quaker Service?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

@canuckandakiwi:  I went to a “quaker style” service. As in the couple is not quaker, but after reading about it, decided that was the ceremony they wished to have. Quakers [in PA] can marry themselves, as in, they do not need an officiant.

They read some poems that had meaning to them… said their vows, there was a couple of minutes where anyone who wanted to speak out, or say something to the couple was allowed to do so (you didn’t have to – and as I am NOT a public speaker, I opted not to). But some people put some interesting thoughts in general about marriage and some [shortened] interesting stories about the couple out there.

I happened to have loved the ceremony. But, not sure if this was helpful to you as it wasn’t a real quaker ceremony.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@canuckandakiwi:  I haven’t n been to a Quaker wedding but I went to a Sunday service. Basically we say there in silence for an hour and then had coffee in the courtyard. Soooo I guess it could go well if people know to prepare something or are moved to speak from the heart. or it could be pretty boring. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I haven’t been to a Quaker wedding in about 20 years, but the one thing I remember (I was about 5 at the time) is that everyone in attendance signs the marriage license as witnesses. It’s usually hung in a prominent spot in the couple’s house afterward. The Wikipedia page on it might give you a little bit more information: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quaker_wedding

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@luluvohn:  My parents were married in a Quaker ceremony, and they DO display their signed marriage license in a prominent place!  I’ve always loved looking at all the signatures from their family and loved ones, and it’s something I want to incorporate into my own wedding instead of having a guestbook.  My mother will be making it.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Phamnomenon:  We really wanted to do one (I attended Quaker school for all K-12, so it’s a big part of my history), but my MOH (she’s Quaker) researched it and found out we couldn’t do it if we weren’t having a Quaker ceremony.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I went to one as a date with my ex boyfriend. It was awful. An hour of awkward silence. Barely anyone spoke. 

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