Has anyone just run off to the courthouse…

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Newbee

I would love to do this.  It’s my ideal wedding.  Just me and him, pledging ourselves to each other.  If it wouldn’t cause a major hullabaloo with our families, we would do it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Thats kind of what we are planning with our elopement.  I do want photos though.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

I’ve heard of being done, I can’t find the blog post from another website though. The couple did make sure to have a photographer though, and she grabbed a white dress from a department store and some grocery store flowers. It looked very romantic.

This does seem appealing to me, but our families would flip and I don’t mind having a small wedding and showing off a little.

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think I would do a little more planning if I eloped, I know I would at least want a nice dress, lol. If you are thinking that running off to the courthouse is something you would want, make sure you check and see if your state has a waiting period for marriage licenses. I know that in Texas, you have to wait 72 hours after receiving the license before you can actually get married. I’d hate for you to get there and then find out you had to go home still not married!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@leahleafy:  That’s what my FI and I wanted to do….plus a rabbi, but our families wouldn’t have it.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@waitingforthering2:  Yes, I did for my first marriage.  No rings, 3 day “engagement” (aka period before we got married), no gown or even white dress.  Then we went back to work. 

It was so uneventful.  I didn’t like how it went down, but there were no other options at the time.  This might be just fine for some couples – in fact I know some in real life.

 

Another friend decided to get married last miute, more of a way to gain control over the wedding that was getting over ran by MIL.  (That wedding still went through.)  THey were in their jeans, she grabbed some sunflowers from the ditch, the cop and the secretary were the witnesses.  It didn’t go over so well with family.  15 years later, the H still says her family hates him!

 

 

Now if I were to do the courthouse again (nothing wrong with the courthouse!), I’d do a nice dress, photographer, bouquet, champagne and fancy dinner out – and call it good!  You know do something that is special to make it just a wee bit different than paying for licenses plates for your car.

 

 

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

DH and I did it, he proposed (no ring) and next week we went to the courthouse the two of us and 4 witnesses.

I didnt buy a dress, nothing, we only have like 2 pics of that day. (one being my display picture)

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@waitingforthering2:  This would be my ideal wedding! Alas, it would break my parents’ hearts so there is no way we should elope/have a courthouse wedding.

For us, our wedding will be more for our families than for us, so we’re taking their feelings into consideration every step of the way. That means I will mourn my fantasy of a short white dress and grabbing a poutine outside of city hall after getting married 🙁 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I just did it last July. We didn’t tell anyone and have yet to tell them mainly because we have been going back and forth if we should do something fancy for family and friends. I am competely happy that we did it. The whole thing was under $150 and that included the license, officent fee, dinner at Chili, and buying new dishes (plates, bowels, and cups). It was nice. I don’t think I’ll regret it because the only thing that was missing from my dream wedding as a kid was the Elivis impronster. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@waitingforthering2:  honestly, if my wedding wouldn’t be paid for in full, I would NOT have a wedding. As it is, my engagement party (that I’m currently fighting to not have) is more lavish that I thought my wedding would be 🙁

I think you’re making a very smart decision! Spending so much money on one day would give me hives, unless I was getting a Birkin in return (lol).

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