Post # 1
So I got engaged last month but I have a problem… I don’t like the ring. :/
He had it made from a local jeweler that will not return the ring without a 750 dollar restocking fee… and that isn’t even a return it’s an exchange for him to make something different.
The jeweler said he would work with me and if I found another ring he would order it. So I went to like 10 diff stores and found a Scott Kay ring that I really liked and brought him in the style number and pictures. He said he can’t order from scott kay and he would make it… Only to make it he wants to charge me 2000.00 which is around 400-500 more than I saw at chain jewelry stores plus the restocking fee of 750 dollars….
I’m thinking I have no choice but to keep the ring I don’t like. I feel like a real a$$hole but I have been with my fiance for 8 years so I have been waiting a long time for this ring and I have sent him so many pictures of styles I like. I have never once sent him this style..
I’m so annoyed over this.. What would you do?
Post # 3
I’m sorry, I don’t know what to tell you but I’m in pretty much the same situation. I still don’t know what to do.
EDIT: Or I know what to do, but Fiance won’t. He agrees that we should get another one, he just hasn’t. For a year. Argh!
What does your fiance say? Have you brought up your dislike of it with him?
Post # 4
What does your ring look like? I am so sorry. That sucks.
Post # 5
I am going through the exact same thing right now! Check out my most recent thread for details. I don’t have any advice, but just wanted to chime in and say I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. My jeweler wont take back my ring at all, no exchanges or refunds as it is custom 🙁
Post # 6
That sucks, I’m sorry. My only advice is to not settle with a ring you don’t love. You will be wearing this ring for a very long time and you deserve to love everything about it!
Post # 7
Just sell it- you might be able to keep the diamond and buy a band for it- that would probably be the most cost effective option. Exchanging it would be ludicrous.
I plan on swapping out my band which is extremely plain Jane in a couple of years. It has sentimental value to my Fiance so I can’t do it right away :/ so I’ll just do it after the wedding and I won’t tell anyone
Post # 8
I’m also curious to see what it looks like. We’re in the same situation, but the only difference is that I picked out the ring that I now dislike. I was blinded by a good sale price for an excellent quality ring, and now I look at it and see something that doesn’t reflect me or my personal tastes at all. Is it something that just might take some time to get used to, or do you really, strongly dislike it. I found that after I wore my ring for awhile, I noticed it less and less. :/
Post # 9
If I was in your shoes I would trade it up, and get something you love…
Post # 10
How do I trade it up? I was hoping to go to another jewelry to see if they would do that but I didn’t think they would? I’m new to these boards so i am trying to post pictures… It’s making me really upset though because to me the band doesn’t even look like it costs 750 let alone 1500 :/ I can’t even see the diamonds on the sides they are so incased.I am really just not happy with it. Does not reflect my style and to be honest I was hoping for more after 8 years :/
Post # 13
I actually think your ring is gorgeous,!
Hoever if it’s not what you want or like then change it 🙂
I love my ring( I even helped pick it out) but I do wish it was a princess cut or cushion cut diamond instead of round. The jeweler we bought it from has an upgrade program, they”ll credit us the $ amount we paid for the diamond and apply it to a new one. Down the road I think I’ll upgrade the size and change the shape( shouldntd be too hard I hope.
Good luck sorting yours out. 😀
Post # 14
I found mine and about died from wanting it so much, and he got it for me in secret, so I have no idea what it feels like to not like it. It’s really sad, though, and I’m sorry your going through this.
It’s really hard, I imagine, I just know that I would break my fiances heart if I told him I didn’t want it, hopefully your man is taking it all right:)
Post # 15
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. I had some drama with my ring and had to change the setting twice. It’s agony to go through. Even though I chose the setting for the most part, I still had doubts. Please keep us posted and I hope you can work something out. At the end of the day, try to enjoy the fact that you are engaged after 8 years and have a wonderful furture to look forward too! I know it’s really hard right now though, and I hope you get the ring of your dreams!! Or learn to love what you have if there is not another option. Last but not least, you could always get an awesome band, but that doesn’t solve the issue at hand, I know.
Post # 16
I agree, see if you can sell the setting! someone directed me to a great site, idonowidont.com although this would be to sell the whole ring not just the setting.