Post # 1
I’ve known since before we met that I always wanted to write my own vows. And my FI agrees that he’ll do it. I’m so excited to be able to stand in front of my friends and family and tell the world how committed I am to my best friend in the whole world.
But I’m nervous. I’m a poet so I don’t want to sound toooo cheesy but I want to make everyone realize how much I care for him, and how much he means to me. So, does anyone have some key points of advice for me?
Post # 3
We wrote our own! It was a really cool experience, because we sort of wrote them together, and it meant a lot to talk through the whole process and just share with each other things that we love about each other, want to promise to each other, etc. I have all of our notes from the process saved on my computer, and read them when I’m having a bad day. 🙂
We started by writing down 10 reasons we love each other, then wrote down 5-7 things we want to promise to the other person, and then we shared those lists with each other and talked about them, and then we re-worked it so that we each had 5 “I promise to… ” statements, and those were our vows!
We also did the traditional “repeat after me” style vows – you know, the ones that go “I [wife] take you [husband], blah blah blah.” 🙂
Post # 4
We wrote our own vows. It was way harder than I thought it would be, but it was so special to hear them on the day of (we kept them a secret from each other). We each got teary eyed. I actually found some good advice on theknot.com, which said think about a few questions like “I knew I was in love with you when . . . ” “I love you because . . .” “With you in my life, I feel . . .” “You’ve taught me . . . ” etc. Sometimes just answering those questions is enough to get the creative juiced flowing.