- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2008
After reading through the many different responses to the destination wedding post, I got to thinking about that magic word that seems to be the focus of most of the responses, and that causes so much conflict when it comes to weddings:
MONEY! (Boo! Hiss! Snarl!)
At my current age (27), a good number of my weekends have become consumed by weddings. I love a good wedding, and I appreciate all that goes into planning for one, but I often feel like the expenses to attend a wedding just keep becoming grander and grander, and I am having trouble keeping up.
Now that I am engaged and will soon be having a wedding of my own, it has given me the opportunity to look at the cost of things from a different perspective, but it has also validated some of the feelings I have always had. For example, I have always thought that expecting guests to give you gifts at an engagement party, shower, AND wedding is a bit much. If we have an engagement party, we have already decided that we will request no gifts. In the same regard, though, I feel as if we have become more generous with the amount we spend/give for a wedding gift, after becoming more educated about what it is costing the happy couple to have us there.
So my question(s) for the hive: has being a bride changed your feelings on the cost of attending other people’s weddings? Have you become more generous in your gift-giving, or less generous? Why? And do you think all of the gift-giving that goes along with weddings is acceptable, or has it gotten out of control?