(Closed) Has having a child/children been as fun as you thought it'd be?

posted 4 years ago in Family
  • poll: Has raising a child been as fun as you thought it'd be?
    Yes, moreso! : (11 votes)
    44 %
    Yes, about what I expected. : (6 votes)
    24 %
    A little less fun than I expected. : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Way less fun than I expected. : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Not much fun at all. : (1 votes)
    4 %
    More stressful than anything else. : (3 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    7498 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I’m currently pregnant with my first, so I can’t really answer, but I don’t think I ever thought raising children would be “fun” per say. I think I’ve always pictured it as being really challenging, but enriching and worth it.

    Post # 5
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    7772 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I guess I never expected it to be fun.  I mean, I know there will be lots of fun things to do- like going to local farms that have little baby animals with our LO, and taking them camping and swimming every summer- but I guess I always knew it would be tough as well.  My mum had a baby when I was 15 and I had to take care of her and she cried CONSTANTLY.  I got no sleep and she was never happy.  My mum was really unhappy and had a really hard time… so I guess I never had any illusions about the challenges.

    Post # 6
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    1857 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I never assumed it would be fun – I didn’t want children and got pregnant unexpectedly at an early age.

    All the ‘fun’ stuff you’re talking about is generally not the every day stuff. I love my daughter and I think she’s fun and really interesting, but there were years between infancy and her age now (9) that most of it was boring and difficult. I actually found her being a baby quite fun because she was an easy baby and could be entertained in all kinds of neat ways, and of course she was learning so much in the first couple of years. And now she’s fun because she’s her person and we can do all kinds of things together.

    But the day-to-day waking up early to get ready for school, making sure the laundry’s done so she has a clean uniform to wear, getting lunches packed, watching over homework and teethbrushing and hairwashing… It’s a bit tedious.

    Post # 7
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    5481 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m only 5 weeks in and honestly, so far it’s kind of an energy suck.  That is not to say I’m not absolutely in love with my daughter- she makes my heart swell with joy.  However, there’s not a lot of interaction just yet.  There is no head control.  There is no sleep.  There is a lot of spit-up, poop, and fussing.

    I hope that as she reaches more developmental milestones and starts interacting more with her environment that it will be a bit more fun.  I think things will be exciting as she marvels in all the lights of her first Christmas, as I watch the wonder in her eyes as she touches snow for the first time, when she learns how to splash in the bathtub… things like that.  I look at this as an opportunity to re-experience the wonder of first things- first holidays, first tastes of foods, first steps…

    I’m not sure how much of what I’m looking forward to experiencing is as much ‘fun’ as it is rewarding.  I know that right now having a newborn is very demanding and very hard work, but I trust that there is a payoff along the way.  She has only just started smiling a bit and it makes me so happy to see that.  It makes the long nights, early mornings, and multiple wardrobe changes (thank you spit-up!) a little more tolerable.

    Post # 8
    Member
    723 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    sometimes things are stressful (ie: DD had a lower GI issue for the last 3 weeks) so trying to figure things out with her plus plan a wedding plus work full time and trying to keep sane. but I wouldn’t change it for the world!

    Post # 9
    Member
    495 posts
    Helper bee

    Not that I live only for fun, but having a kid has never sounded fun for me. It’s one small part of why we’re not planning on it.

    That said, I find other people’s kids fun sometimes. I imagine I’d find my own kids lots of fun lots of the time, and not so fun other times. Just like grown people!

    Post # 10
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    8475 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I always thought of having/raising children as work.  I understand that it can be very rewarding work, but it’s still work.  I definitely applaud all of the good moms (and dads) out there, I really don’t know how you guys do it.

    Post # 11
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    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    honestly i find it more hard that what i thought it will be but at the same time more fun , is fun to see her grow ,to see her dance and sing and dance and sing with her , listen the things she said ,dress her up and go shopping to buy her clothes , is fun to see the new things she learns , paint our nails , take her pictures ,videos and see the physical and emotional appearance to me , is fun to see her playing with her toys and see the games she creates , and how she tries to do the things i do , she has brougth so much joy into my life but also theres days where is difficult .

    Post # 12
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    388 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I have an 8 & 10 year old, girls.  I love them dearly.  I can’t explain to you how much I love them.  But I wouldn’t really ever call being a mom “fun.”  It’s a lot of hard work.  My kids are fun.  I love the crazy things they say, the sweet things they do, the goofy faces they make (I could go on and on.)  But fun?  NO.  We do fun things from time to time, but being a mom is not “fun.”

    Post # 13
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    1309 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It’s alot harder and alot more fun than I expected. I have a 3 year old and am expecting baby#2.

    Post # 14
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    2945 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    I have 2 boys 13&11 and one of them had OCD&ADHD it’s so much harder than I ever imagined  Some days I just don’t want to do it anymore:( but with each new day we start fresh with clean slate. We do have some really fun times together but the hard work outweighs the fun big time!

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