- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Let me just say that this wedding, so far, has truly been an important lesson to me about expecatations and dealing with things when they don’t go your way.
I think we all have a pretty clear vision of what we expect our engagement and wedding planning time to be (thank you TLC and SMP) and rarely (if ever) does this pan out. My FI proposed to me while we were on a 3 month trip in SE Asia. Afterwards, we decided to stay in Vietnam and teach English for another year. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made, but boy it hasn’t made planning easy. We’ve booked our venue sight unseen, which I’ve come to terms with (after lots of internal struggle), and we’ve also booked our (amazing) photographer who we haven’t met yet. Now, I’m trying to decide if I want to get my dress made while I’m here for a fraction (yes. a fraction.) of the price. The tradeoff is not going dress shopping with my Mama, which I’ve been looking forward to since we got engaged almost a year ago (or since I started thinking about getting married). The good things: we’re saving a ton of money. Dress (possibly) paper products (invites, save the dates), decor (lights and lanterns, bamboo fans) are all so cheap here, so we’re buying and shipping back home. We’ve also spent a year of our engaged lives living in freaking southeast asia.
What I’ve learned so far: Get rid of expectations. There is a .000001% chance that this process will be what you have imagined your whole life. Once you get rid of that idea, it’s much more fun and less stressful. And, honesetly, it’s what makes your wedding YOUR wedding.
So what have you learned so far? What traditions or original thoughts have you had to throw out the window?