Post # 1
When I first started thinking we should get married, I wanted a destination wedding on the beach in the Outer Banks. But now, I couldn’t imagine spending the money it would take to achieve that wedding. In fact, now, I would rather a very simple backyard wedding followed by a fun house party.
I think everything changed for me after we bought our house. It really changed my perspective on weddings. It’s just one day. I’d much rather put the money I would spend on a wedding into our house or savings for our future family. Not to mention, I don’t want to have to worry about how everything turns out on my wedding day. I don’t want to spend a year planning it. I just want to enjoy it! I find it kind of strange that weddings have become so much about putting on a show. I feel like it has to just be *SO* stressful the day of, worrying the whole time about how things turned out. Or having to set up certain things before-hand. I just want to be able to relax, enjoy the day, and celebrate it for what it is, the two of us vowing to spend the rest of our lives together.
Have your views changed? Do you still want the same wedding you wanted in the beginning? If you’re already married, do you feel like it was all worth it?
Post # 3
My wedding vision totally changed! I always thought I’d get married in a big church in front of all my family and friends with an evening reception filled with dancing and a big dinner but when I sat down and actually thought about it the idea of it terrified me. In the end we had a small, immediate family only ceremony with a afternoon canapé party for the rest of our family and friends afterwards. I wouldn’t change a thing now but I’m glad I changed my mind when I did!
Post # 4
I actually went the opposite direction you did. I always wanted a small wedding with a short engagement, but by the time I got engagedI realized I actually wanted a big beautiful wedding. It is just one day, but in my opinion it’s your one chance to be a bride so why not go totally nutz? You will never look back and regret having a big extravaganza of a wedding (as long as it was what you wanted) but you might regret going too small since you can’t go back and do it over.
Post # 5
Mine has changed completely!! It changed for me because for the past 6 months I’ve been helping two friends plan their weddings. Ugh. I can NOT see myself being like the one. She freaks out over every detail and is stressed all the time about it being perfect even though it’s a year away! That is so NOT me. I can’t see myself putting that much time & money into it. Like you said, its only ONE day and for me it’s about being married not the wedding. I would like a smaller wedding now but I have a feeling it’s going to be bigger than I wish since my SO has a huge family… But I guess I’ll worry about that when I get there!
Post # 6
Mine has changed a lot as well. I always had in my head some aspects of my perfect wedding, dating back to a long term relationship I was in before my FH. What I have realized is that I no longer want to incorporate ideas that I thought about when I was with my ex – including ring ideas, venue choice, colors and theme and all of that. So it’s actually a good thing – I started re-invisioning my perfect dream day that included my dream guy (FH) so now the ideas that are taking shape are much more representative of the two of us as a couple.
In addition, my sister got engaged a while back and promptly chose the venue I’d been talking about for years…grrr…I’m over it now, but at first I was a little miffed!