(Closed) Has the way you imagined your wedding changed throughout waiting?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My wedding vision totally changed! I always thought I’d get married in a big church in front of all my family and friends with an evening reception filled with dancing and a big dinner but when I sat down and actually thought about it the idea of it terrified me. In the end we had a small, immediate family only ceremony with a afternoon canapé party for the rest of our family and friends afterwards. I wouldn’t change a thing now but I’m glad I changed my mind when I did! 

Post # 4
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I actually went the opposite direction you did. I always wanted a small wedding with a short engagement, but by the time I got engagedI realized I actually wanted a big beautiful wedding. It is just one day, but in my opinion it’s your one chance to be a bride so why not go totally nutz? You will never look back and regret having a big extravaganza of a wedding (as long as it was what you wanted) but you might regret going too small since you can’t go back and do it over.

Post # 5
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Mine has changed completely!! It changed for me because for the past 6 months I’ve been helping two friends plan their weddings. Ugh. I can NOT see myself being like the one. She freaks out over every detail and is stressed all the time about it being perfect even though it’s a year away! That is so NOT me. I can’t see myself putting that much time & money into it. Like you said, its only ONE day and for me it’s about being married not the wedding. I would like a smaller wedding now but I have a feeling it’s going to be bigger than I wish since my SO has a huge family… But I guess I’ll worry about that when I get there!

Post # 6
256 posts
Helper bee

Mine has changed a lot as well.  I always had in my head some aspects of my perfect wedding, dating back to a long term relationship I was in before my FH.  What I have realized is that I no longer want to incorporate ideas that I thought about when I was with my ex – including ring ideas, venue choice, colors and theme and all of that.  So it’s actually a good thing – I started re-invisioning my perfect dream day that included my dream guy (FH) so now the ideas that are taking shape are much more representative of the two of us as a couple.

In addition, my sister got engaged a while back and promptly chose the venue I’d been talking about for years…grrr…I’m over it now, but at first I was a little miffed!

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