Post # 1
Me and Fi thought she wasn’t seriously saying it but…now we know she is!
Alright, so we have this friend that I will name Y for this post. She got engaged way before us (a year before us) and we got engaged during the last week-end of May last year. We had a big get-together party with our cosplay friends to celebrate since some of us had gotten engaged.
Y was saying how they were engaged a year from that day during the party, but that she was slightly upset (tried to pass it as a joke) because my FI stole the show. (he asked me to marry me on-stage during a convention.) We all thought she was joking, atleast I did!
This past January we had an anime convention in Gatineau,QC and Y was there. All of the staff went for dinner and my FI heard her say to somebody ” I’m so upset that they are getting married before us! We’ve been engaged longuer!! ” My FI politely told her that he was sorry she was upset, but that we had picked out date sooner than them, but that it wasn’t something to be so upset about.
She started saying how SHE couldn’t count on the financial help of people to make her wedding happen! Fi felt as if she was saying that we had a bunch of people paying for us… which we don’t. But he was tired so he just said that it was only a joke to keep her off his back.
I never knew people would get upset about this! From other friends that know her, she’s always been like this and she has been saying that it upsets her a whole lot. I won’t be moving my date for anybody, but I am feeling a tad awkward..
I feel..a bit sad for her that it upsets her so much, but at the same time, I know it’s every girl’s dream but you only get one day. That it’s before or after me, I won’t steal her show lol
I’m sorry, I needed to get that out of my system!
Post # 3
Wow! No wonder you needed to vent! I’m really sorry to hear your friend is acting that way. I mean, I can understand her right to be upset (personally, I think it’s a dumb reason, but she’s entitled to her feelings), but she shouldn’t be going around sharing her disappointment with the world!
I guess there’s not much you can do about it, though. I suppose comments like “It’s not a race,” or something along those lines might help her calm down, or perhaps just make a joke of it “How about you show up in a dress too, and we’ll make it a double wedding?”
Post # 4
sounds pathetic!!!! sorry for booking a date that suited us as a couple, that just happens to be before you want to set your date! like wtf?? is she jealous that you got a big proposal? or maybe she cant afford to get married yet so shes angry that you are able to get married? whatever the reason, friends are supposed to be HAPPY for other friends regardless. she sounds immature to me. congrats on setting your wedding date!
didnt realise setting a wedding date your meant to wait for every other engaged couple to set theirs first if they got engaged before u. :S
Post # 5
Isn’t it strange that as an upcoming bride herself, she forgets how hard it can be to choose the right date?
3 of our girls have been down the aisle and just checking with all the VIPS to be sure they are available as well as the vendors you want – well that is no small task! My girls have had to deal with 3 sets of parents (we are a blended family) for each wedding. That’s a lot of VIP’s to have available.
Every couple has to choose a date that works for them as well as those they want to attend. I am always amazed at the girls who think – OMG, I was engaged before they were!!! They can’t get married before I do…
Don’t worry about your friend. Let it roll off your back. It is only your issue if you choose to accept it, and it isn’t worth your time.
Post # 6
This ‘friend’ has attention and jealousy issues and frankly, she’s really not a true friend if she’s enjoying being candy towards your wedding in ANY way. Who cares?! Really, truly, you had every right to set your date for whenever you wanted and she needs to own up to adulthood and get over it. Children are starving around the world and she’s whining about a friend getting married before her. Shaking my head at this lackluster, caddy girl.
Post # 7
@mousebride: This happened to me too, on my last birthday night out incidenatlly. FI’s closest girl mate had been drinking, and kind of went off on one. I am one of the insanely lucky one’s (and i know it!) because my parent’s are paying for almost everything: they’re really traidtional and believe it’s the bride’s parent’s job. They’d never let me pay for my wedding. I know a lot of people aren’t as lucky as me in that respect though. Anyway, she’s been engaged for 3 years, and has no date yet, both her and her FI are unemployed, and so are their families. I told her she could get married for around £700, but she wants to wait until they can afford their dream. That’s her decision, so why complain? All it did was upset me and my FI. We don’t love eachother any less than them, just because we’ve been together less time.