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I've been around for 2.5 years and I have to say YES! But my answer is in regards to Weddingbee as a business and the community on the boards.
I can honestly say this site is starting to attract some really immature people, and I don't mean just age, who post really ridiculous vents/posts/questions.
As the boards have grown, more sections not related to weddings have been added which allows people to stick around for much longer. Have you noticed how little the boards are focused on wedding planning now? That is what is creating the drama.
I feel like it gets that way (really drama filled), and then subsides. I haven't been posting much since school is in session, but I have still been reading/ lurking, and in my opinion, since the whole stripper/ bachelor(ette) party topic has died down, I think we're back to "normal."
...But maybe I've missed something?
@nut9108: Thank you so much for your honesty - I was worried no one would post haha.
@JenniMichele: To be honest I haven't been around the boards much either since school started, so I don't really have the best judgment on the drama levels. I think I even missed the whole stripper debaucle.
Yes and no. I think there are a few hateful "trolls" on here, but as long as no one else really plays into it, it is usually fine!
I don't see the cattyness. I think some folks are a little too sensitive. If I don't like a thread I either close out or I don't comment.
I think threads like this create the atmosphere for cattyness. If we all stopped talking about whether or not weddingbee has "gone down hill" we wouldn't need to worry about it.
I think that if we all just kept discussing things like adults and focused on giving the best advice we can that we wouldn't need to start threads like that.
I've been here 1 1/2 years and it's definitely more dramatic than it used to be on the boards. But it's usually a handful of posts that can be easily ignored by those who don't want the drama.
Ive been on the boards for about 10 months now and I really havent noticed it TOO much but just a little... its definitely nowhere near The Knot though! I think all in all its still pretty supportive, helpful, happy and wholesome :-)
I haven't seen any cattyness, this place is NOTHING like theKnot though. Not even remotely.
i havent been around that long... but in the time i have been here i have not really noticed a huge change... i think you just need to take it all in stride. there are always going to be a few bad apples... but for the most part i love weddingbee!
@MsBrooklynA: TOTALLY AGREE!!! If everyone just posted what they normally post and were as supportive and helpful as possible then things would be fine!
@PitBulLover: "I think all in all its still pretty supportive, helpful, happy and wholesome :-)"
I agree-- especially for those who are specifically here for wedding planning. I think the "cattyness" comes from other, not specifically wedding planning related, topics.
@ceamoste: Lucky YOU on missing that (in all seriousness)!
agree that if you don't like what's being written on the boards, then close out of the thread. if you feel like you have to say something, then that's a risk you have to be willing to take. i think overall, posters are considerate and kind. it's just that there have been some controversial threads that elicit certain types of responses.
I see the occasional snotty comment, but I agree that The Knot is SOOOO much worse. You'll have people like that anywhere, but I closed my account on The Knot because everyone was so dramatic and cynical. I love how everyone tries to help and uplift one another, while being honest, on WB! :)
I have been here for a year and a half and YES it has changed.
I still read but I post a lot less and find myself rolling my eyes and closing threads A LOT!
For the most part the big change I have noticed is that people are quicker to call one another out to start an argument on the boards. Instead of just posting their opinion and moving on.
I know that some of my posts have been considered "controversial" but I never intended on them spiraling out of control like they did. I posted about things that I experienced in my life and wanted opinions from other bees. Some people took offense to them, even though I certainly never intended on that happening. I've tried to remain drama free even after being personally attacked for my own views but sometimes it just not that easy.
I've only been a member of the hive for about 6 months but I have noticed my fair share of drama on the boards.
ETA: I do agree with alot of the PP's, if people would just not post when they have nothing constructive to say, it would greatly decrease the drama filled threads.
I dont see what everyone is talking about. it's a board full of women so yes sometimes emotions will run high. Overwhelmingly, I see the board as positive. There are times that some people just post some straight foolishness and yes, people will respond accordingly b/c I dont think it necessary or mandatory to support foolishness. ::shrugs::
In regards to the posts about topics like this causing drama, I would like to state that it was not my intention to create drama. I was simply curious as to the response, and I think that the comments posted have been very encouraging.
If this truly is a website for adults (which it is as you have to be of 'adult' age to get married), we should be able to discuss this stuff without a problem. I believe that's been accomplished here so far.
If I don't agree with the topic or think a thread is too full of drama, I don't read it or comment on it. There have been a few exceptions, but it's very infrequently. I'm on weddingbee to get ideas for planning my wedding and being involved in a community. I had enough drama in college and don't want any on here.
So, I notice it, but 1) it'll happen and 2) I just choose to not be involved.
Oh, I should also add, that I think if we were sitting in person discussing some of the topics that are "drama-filled" on here, it would be WAAAAY different. It's entirely too easy to get offended, take something the wrong way, or not have your point come off well when you're online as opposed to in real life.
So maybe that's why normally drama free women tend to get more dramatic online? I don't know... I still just ingore it haha.
@ceamoste: I think people are just kind of sick of posts talking about drama/negativity/snark/going-down-hill-ness. Not that you are trying to cause drama, but I feel like there has been AT LEAST one post like this a week since national hate on strippers day here on the 'Bee.
But to answer your question, I don't think the boards have gone down hill. Yeah threads spin out of control but that will happen anywhere you have this many people with different view points discussing the same topic. Of course I can only speak for myself, but I get tons of support from this coommunity!
I have no idea how it was "before," so I guess I'm fine with it. I, for one, enjoy a good discussion, so I appreciate posts that go beyond flowers and rings. I think that there are threads that tend to get a bit drama-filled, but I also think everyone has the discretion to opt in or out depending on their comfort-level.
And, despite the fact that some threads get heated, it's been pretty rare that I've seen people be outright disrespectful.
I think some threads can get out of hand and really only one has really struck me the wrong way and I can definitely say I took it really personal. But like others have said it's a BIG community filled with lots of different people. It kind of reminds me of the whole world peace thing, sorry but not everyone is going to get along 100% of the time. Also just because I may disagree with some people in some threads doesn't mean I harbor any bad feelings against them!
I've been on here for 3 years and without a doubt I've never seen as much controversy as I've seen in the last few months. I wouldn't call it cattiness, because I don't think people are intentionally out to hurt others feelings as implied by the word. I think people are just getting caught up in their opinions on controversial topics, of which there are more recently. I for one don't post on the controversial boards specifically because I don't need/want to be involved in the drama. Personally what I think it is is that people are becoming more used to seeing dissidence and hence are more willing to contribute some of their own. The previous Weddingbee axiom of "respect all, offend none" seems to have gone by the wayside on some threads (not all!).
Regardless, WB still blows the Knot and many other websites out of the water. I for one am glad that there are areas on the site for people who are post-wedding because it really is a community here. I won't be quitting any time soon, even if there are a handful of unpleasant posts!
Lol, this gets asked a lot, like every 3-6 weeks. My tip, avoid threads you know will rile you up. Everyone has an opinion--too many people take it personally.
I've been around for about a year and I have never really read the threads that create the drama because I can tell by the post title that I would not be interested in it.
I think things might me a bit more immature/catty but, in general I still think the community is super-supportive and nice.
What I don't like is the amount of people who recently (within the last 2-3 months) post tons and tons of posts daily. To me it seems more like attention seeking rather than casual conversation like most posts are. But...I simply choose not to read those posts and only comment on controversial issues that are important to me; like politics or education.
@Mrs Green Grass: Yeah, I've noticed there are a few people that post a lot more than others BUT I think we all use WB differently. I just hope they have an opinion for themselves especially since it's important to love their day.
I've been on the Weddingbee for 8mths and what I have noticed change are the topic themes. I know we're all very well educated and opinionated women and have a lot more to talk about then just weddings, but topics like immigration rights, whether or not you support a certain political stance, whether or not the military protects our freedom, and do you believe in corporal punishment, etc on a wedding board all seem a little out of place and those tend to be the ones that get really out of hand and insulting.
On the wedding topics, I don't think people are getting snarkier (sp?), but I do think that people are sometimes just too sensitive when they ask for opinions and don't get the answer they want.
*Note, those off-wedding topics are just a few recent one's I can think of quickly, please don't be offended that those are the one's I singled out if you're the one who started them.
I've only been around a few months and I haven't really noticed people being cattier. There do seem to be waves of more drama and then less drama, though. I like discussing controversial topics and I think most people are very respectful and not at all catty, about that.
The one thing I've noticed lately, though, is there's been more trolls than usual. I wouldn't put that in the same class as people being catty and rude... just threads I open up and it seems like the OP is almost certainly just posting something with the specific intent of starting an argument. I try to avoid those threads once I figure out what's going on, though.
I've been on the Bee for a year now and I have definitely noticed a lot of snarkiness in the past few months. It's no where near as bad as The Knot though!
I love wedding bee, especially the DIY section, I've been so inspired by other bees and I learn new things everyday.. Yes sometimes there is drama but isnt that part of life and wedding planning anyway?
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I was considering posting this anonymous, but I decided that I didn't care if I got flack for this.
There has been a lot of discussion lately regarding the 'cattyness' of WeddingBee lately, and I wanted your honest opion.
Do you feel that WB has become more and more like the Knot? Or is it just that people are now over-reacting/too sensitive.
If you feel comfortable, comment. Otherwise just vote so we can see honestly what people think.