Post # 1
Just a rant thread here for all the bees who need to let off some steam
For me, sometimes when I speak to people about my wedding I feel like I am the only sane person in the world
Example: (Some bees may not agree with this one but that’s okay too! lol)
My cousin (who I’m fairly close with) messages me and asks if her sister is invited to my wedding. A bit of background :
- I’m getting married in May 2015
- No invites have been sent out
- My weding is super tiny.. 73 guests including my bridal party and I have a huge immediate family
- I have 38 guests on the list and 25 and my sister/brothers and their children over 18
- This cousin has a sister, who I rarely speak to, she has never met my fiancé and I haven’t seen her in 8 years
Back to the story at hand.. I tell my cousin that she’s on the list but not in the original 75 and explain to her what I have just drilled down for you
her response: “well what am I supposed to tell her”
my response: “uh nothing, 1) invites havent gone out yet and 2) it’s not your wedding so you don’t have to explain anything to her, if the time ccomes and I can;t fit her in the number I will address it”
I am so irritated by this! People never seem to understand the predicament you are in as a bride!
Maybe I’m being a bridezilla or a b*tch but I just can’t believe she is mostly concerned on what SHE will need to say!? Am I the crazy one!?
Rant on ladies!!!
Post # 2
Why can’t they just wait for an invite and see!! Also I feel that if she needs to ask you that question, then her sister is probably not invited! I’ve been lucky so far with our families not being too crazy but we aren’t that far into planning yet! Its the prices for everything that make me think the world is insane. Why should it cost so much just to rent a venue- without staff, catering or anything. Just literally the venue costs thousands. INSANE!
Post # 3
I feel like as soon as the word wedding is brought up prices skyrocket! lol
Post # 4
MeandMyLouboutins: I agree with you about people being crazy and the prices attached to wedding things.
Ive got vendors waiting on me to provide my preferences, so they can complete their contract/sale. I didnt seek out these people (yes there are two of them, not one), nor did I ask someone to seek out these people, but yet they’ve been working with contacts that have told them all about my wedding and showed them pics I like. Funny thing is….these services were never in my budget. I’ve decided their “contacts” can let them down. I won’t even talk to these people.
Post # 5
MeandMyLouboutins: The only thing that makes me wonder if we are the only sane people in the room is when we talk about budget and prices. EVERYTHING is so ridiculously expensive for weddings! Even for off-season weddings around here, we will still wind up paying around $80.00 per plate for our venue. If we got married during wedding season, it would be about $100.00 per plate. . . and we aren’t even getting married at a super popular venue either. I mean, we have the money to pay for a nicer wedding, but that doesn’t mean we want to spend it all – we don’t even want to spend all the money we have allocated for the wedding.
And then there are times when I wonder if I’m actually sane or not – for instance, I drive myself crazy wondering if people will actually want to come to our wedding or whether our wedding reception will suck. I always manage to ignore those thoughts and focus on what I’m doing, but still.
Can we just skip to the part where we say “I do?” -_-
Post # 6
MeandMyLouboutins: I am dumbfounded what people will actually pay for wedding items that seem unnecessary to me! I had a conversation with my sister about doing fake bouquets, candle only centerpieces, and no bouts for the guys and she went off on me! I refuse to spend a large portion of my teeny budget on something that will get thrown out, forgotten, and die within two days.
Post # 7
LoggerHead91207: hahah.. I do the same.. but in regards to the reception being the best party of the year.. I’m probably over obsessed and for that I’ll say I’m the crazy one! lol
FutureMrs.Huemiller: I told one of my sisters I may go without flowers for the ceremony and she nearly had a kinniption. WE’ll be in the room for 30 minutes.. at the end of the day who cares!!!!!!
Post # 8
Update on the cousin
She called my MOH and said “she guesses she understand where I am coming from”… sheesh
Post # 9
She’s probably asking because her sister is asking her, otherwise it wouldn’t be a big deal. My mother insisted that I invite one of my younger cousins, whom I NEVER see, nor do I like. I refused. She told me that I “had” to. I didn’t. I haven’t seen this girl in at least 6 years, and the last time I did see her, she was a brat. Why invite someone I don’t even know or like? We kept it to people that we actually knew, and seen more than once a year.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida
MeandMyLouboutins: OMG I can’t go to work withouth someone asking me about my wedding (It doesn’t help FI and I work at the same company in the same department) but Everyone in out departmetn (435 people) think they are invited…. I have kept to the same story We are very limited on guest because our venue hold 150 but she extended it to 175 by adding tables outside on the attached patio and we have 75 family members comin in from out of town with the in town family and wedding party we are at 120 so we have limited seats for non family members (especially coworkers who i’m not friends with outdise of work)
I feel like during the whole planning process you find out how people really dont know etiquette! I’ve had people i dont even know come up and ask me about the wedding
Post # 11
jenilynevette: Well.. I find it hard to believe her sister would be asking… we are 7 months away and NOT one invite has gone out… It’s very strange IMO of course but how can you ask someone who isn’t the wedding “planner” per say if you are invited? Why would she even think her sister would know..
ugh.. c’est la vie!
Post # 12
i can’t believe how many people (and not even my friends, in laws friends – adults who should know better!) think it’s acceptable to ask if they’re invited, hassle us for the date so ‘they can make their plans etc’ when ummmm – you haven’t been invited yet! it’s very awkward and puts us on the spot. it’s only one side that does that, and i find it really, really rude. i feel like saying ‘we’ve actually been revisiting the guest list, so we’ll see…’.
Post # 13
peonyinlove: hahaha @ revisitng the guest list!
It’s so funny because , no offense< I really don’t care most times if I’m invited to someones wedding. Unless it’s my sister etc… When I get to avoid the cost I actually am happy but on the flip side it seems as if people have no care as to what the cost is or hard it is to cut down a guest list.