(Closed) Has your boss ever told you that you weren’t their first choice?

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Oooh, what a predicament!  Do you have any coworkers that would stick up for you?  That might not even help.  I don’t know!  I might be inclined to contact HR, but I understand your concern over appearing paranoid.

Sorry I’m not help but I know the other bees will have some good suggestions, they always do.  Good luck with this!

Post # 5
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Have you talked to the director? I would raise the questions with them, and say because of her comments that you wonder if she is able to give a fair assessment of your work. It seems like she been rooting for you to fail, or at the very least blinded by what you bring to the table because she got in her head that you don’t have the right background.

Post # 6
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is well beyond not having a filter…this destructive to the workplace!  This is a lack of professionalism and I would encourage you to discuss this with HR.  You have obviously dedicated yourself to this position and have made it through your probationary period…so you have proved that you deserve the position.  It would be devastating to know that someone who cannot keep her negative mentality and hurtful thoughts to herself has your future in her hands. 

Post # 7
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t know if there is anything you can do “pre-emptively,” but with every evaluation I’ve ever seen or had, you have a chance to respond. I would assume you could respond/take it up with the director if she gives you a bad evaluation. Here’s hoping that won’t be the case!

Post # 8
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@ananeele:  Are there a list of accomplishments that you can state to her and/or to the director? Like bullet points that you would write in your resume?

Post # 10
82 posts
Worker bee

@ananeele:  I’m not sure if you have the luxury to find another position or if this is a job that you absolutely love, but from personal experience, having a difficult supervisor definitely makes your job more dreadful and not worth it.

After your probation period and if you get hired on, will you be working with this woman on a day-to-day basis? 

It sounds like you’ve clearly demonstrated your commitment to this work despite not having the background in the industry. Ask the director if there is a chance to respond to the 30 day evaluation. The way I see it, if they don’t hire you on, it is their loss and you won’t have to work with that horrible woman.


Post # 11
812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Perhaps you could join an industry related message board and ask your questions there? Do lots of research within your industry and by pass that bitch.

Post # 12
1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

It sounds like she is intentionally trying to threaten your job and most likely insecure about her job.  I would document relevant moments and conversations you have had with her in which she made these unprofessional statements. Worst case scenario you do not survive the 90 day period, but you  can have an exit interview and voice your concerns to the HR dept or write a letter to the Director thanking him/her for the opportunity and then voice your concerns there….that way it is documented and she will probably get reprimanded and placed in her file….

Good luck to you…having a horrible boss is the worst….I know I had 2 in my lifetime….not good at all!

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